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‘I’m a 31-year-old woman and I have never orgasmed with a partner’

‘I’m a 31-year-old woman and I have never orgasmed with a partner’

Roe McDermott: 80% of women cannot orgasm from penetrative sex alone

Sun Dec 29 2019 - 14:17
I found out my partner cheated years ago and I'm so angry

I found out my partner cheated years ago and I'm so angry

Ask Roe: I chose to stay, and ever since we’ve been more honest. But I’m still angry

Sun Dec 22 2019 - 06:00
I just got married – but I’m still in love with my best friend

I just got married – but I’m still in love with my best friend

Ask Roe: I wouldn’t cheat on my husband, but I can’t stop thinking about the friend

Sun Dec 15 2019 - 06:00
After a broken marriage, I’m scared to let the perfect man love me

After a broken marriage, I’m scared to let the perfect man love me

Ask Roe: I feel like I am asking so much of him to take on all the complications that come with my life

Sun Dec 08 2019 - 06:00
I want to stop my husband from trying impotence medication

I want to stop my husband from trying impotence medication

Ask Roe: I prefer our new love life and I don’t want him to take the pills

Sun Dec 01 2019 - 06:00
I do not like my boyfriend’s drug-using friends

I do not like my boyfriend’s drug-using friends

Ask Roe: Nights out escalate from one glass of wine at a dinner party to lines of cocaine

Sun Nov 24 2019 - 06:00
I want to take sex slowly, but women assume I’m not interested

I want to take sex slowly, but women assume I’m not interested

Ask Roe: The only way I feel comfortable and enjoy sex is if I know the person

Sun Nov 17 2019 - 06:00
My boyfriend enjoys hearing about my previous sexual encounters

My boyfriend enjoys hearing about my previous sexual encounters

Ask Roe: At first I didn’t mind but now it feels disrespectful to my exes

Sun Nov 10 2019 - 06:00
My partner doesn’t last long in bed, and it’s killing me

My partner doesn’t last long in bed, and it’s killing me

Ask Roe: I love him dearly, but he’s not very good when it comes to sex

Sun Nov 03 2019 - 06:00
My partner refuses to dress up sexily for me, and it’s ruining our relationship

My partner refuses to dress up sexily for me, and it’s ruining our relationship

Ask Roe: Am I asking too much in wishing for titillation as a prelude to sex?

Sun Oct 27 2019 - 06:00
I’m a sexual deviant. How do I tell new partners?

I’m a sexual deviant. How do I tell new partners?

Ask Roe: I enjoy being dominated, but are these desires always going to be a problem?

Sun Oct 20 2019 - 06:00
Since I had a baby, my cheating partner calls me fat and disgusting

Since I had a baby, my cheating partner calls me fat and disgusting

Ask Roe: I can’t stand to look in the mirror. My partner only makes it worse

Sun Oct 13 2019 - 06:00
Is it okay not to orgasm? Friends think I’m enduring bad sex

Is it okay not to orgasm? Friends think I’m enduring bad sex

Ask Roe: I have sex with my husband when I’m not turned on. Are they right?

Sun Oct 06 2019 - 06:00
Guys don’t want to be in a relationship with me. What am I doing wrong?

Guys don’t want to be in a relationship with me. What am I doing wrong?

Ask Roe: I feel I’ll never find someone who will truly love me, who I will love back

Sun Sept 29 2019 - 06:00
I fell in love while living abroad and don’t think I’ll ever find that connection again

I fell in love while living abroad and don’t think I’ll ever find that connection again

Ask Roe: Now that I’m back in Ireland, this is the only thing that I can think about

Sun Sept 22 2019 - 06:00
‘He says my favourite kind of sex isn’t really his thing’

‘He says my favourite kind of sex isn’t really his thing’

Ask Roe: ‘Four months in to our relationship, my older partner has never given me oral sex’

Sun Sept 15 2019 - 06:00
How can we keep sex fun while trying to conceive?

How can we keep sex fun while trying to conceive?

Ask Roe: It’s hard to get in the mood when sex feels ‘scheduled’

Sun Sept 08 2019 - 06:05
‘My husband says he never has to be affectionate because he shows his love in other ways’

‘My husband says he never has to be affectionate because he shows his love in other ways’

Ask Roe: He is not affectionate and never compliments me or says he loves me unprompted

Sun Sept 01 2019 - 06:00
‘We rushed into marriage, are stuck in a rut and now I'm considering cheating’

‘We rushed into marriage, are stuck in a rut and now I'm considering cheating’

Ask Roe: A co-worker wants a one-night stand with me but I’m not so sure if I will do it

Sun Aug 25 2019 - 06:00
‘I’ve been having sex with a friend for a year, and I’ve started to have feelings’

‘I’ve been having sex with a friend for a year, and I’ve started to have feelings’

Ask Roe: He has a partner. I know I’m going to get hurt but I don’t know how to end it

Sun Aug 18 2019 - 06:00
My girlfriend sulks if we don’t have sex and it’s bringing back painful memories

My girlfriend sulks if we don’t have sex and it’s bringing back painful memories

Ask Roe: My mother was narcissistic. My girlfriend doesn’t respect my boundaries, either

Fri Aug 09 2019 - 06:00
I’m 25, gay, single and insecure that all my straight friends are settling down

I’m 25, gay, single and insecure that all my straight friends are settling down

Ask Roe: I have a lot to give someone but no idea where to find them

Sun Aug 04 2019 - 06:00
‘How do I leave my partner without feeling guilty?’

‘How do I leave my partner without feeling guilty?’

Ask Roe: ‘He has been through addiction, depression and cancer and I find it so hard to leave’

Sun Jul 28 2019 - 06:00
I don’t want to cheat on my boyfriend, but I fantasise about other men

I don’t want to cheat on my boyfriend, but I fantasise about other men

Ask Roe: The idea of excitement, being wanted, has me thinking what it’d be like to kiss someone else

Sun Jul 21 2019 - 06:00
How long will it take me to get over my 10-year marriage?

How long will it take me to get over my 10-year marriage?

Ask Roe: I get sucked into chats on dating apps which lead to nothing and feel crushed

Sun Jul 14 2019 - 06:00
‘After 55 years together, my wife has left me. How do I get her back?’

‘After 55 years together, my wife has left me. How do I get her back?’

Ask Roe: To my mind I have not changed – for better or worse – but she has

Sun Jul 07 2019 - 06:00
‘The man I’m cheating on my husband with won’t commit to me’

‘The man I’m cheating on my husband with won’t commit to me’

Ask Roe: We’ve talked about being together but he’s reluctant to change his own life

Sun Jun 30 2019 - 06:00
‘I’m in love with my wife’s sister and want to tell her’

‘I’m in love with my wife’s sister and want to tell her’

Ask Roe: I know my wife would be devastated and I would end up losing a lot

Sun Jun 23 2019 - 06:00
‘What could be so wrong with me that no one has ever liked me?’

‘What could be so wrong with me that no one has ever liked me?’

Ask Roe: I’m always nice and cheerful and I’m great at my job, so why am I alone?

Sat Jun 15 2019 - 06:00
‘I have a fear of rejection, but now I’m scared I’ll be alone forever’

‘I have a fear of rejection, but now I’m scared I’ll be alone forever’

Ask Roe: Openness, vulnerability and compassion are the keys to everything you’re looking for

Sun Jun 09 2019 - 06:04
My partner acts quiet, awkward and disinterested in social situations

My partner acts quiet, awkward and disinterested in social situations

Ask Roe: He comes across as standoffish, which really hurts my feelings

Sun Jun 02 2019 - 06:00
‘I worry I don’t last long enough in bed. I don’t feel like a complete man’

‘I worry I don’t last long enough in bed. I don’t feel like a complete man’

Ask Roe: It’s sad that men judge their self-worth on unrealistic standards

Sun May 26 2019 - 06:00
‘My boyfriend is well endowed, and it’s making sex painful’

‘My boyfriend is well endowed, and it’s making sex painful’

Ask Roe: ‘I think he’s hitting my cervix during sex. Is that possible?’

Sun May 19 2019 - 06:00
‘My boyfriend has no friends and says I’m the only thing that makes him happy’

‘My boyfriend has no friends and says I’m the only thing that makes him happy’

Ask Roe: There’s a difference between appreciating you and being dependent on you

Sun May 12 2019 - 06:00
‘He said he loves me but he does not look forward to seeing me’

‘He said he loves me but he does not look forward to seeing me’

Ask Roe: I believed he was my match and I am not sure how to glue my heart together

Sun May 05 2019 - 06:00
‘My boyfriend keeps naked photos of his ex-girlfriends on his phone’

‘My boyfriend keeps naked photos of his ex-girlfriends on his phone’

Ask Roe: ‘I hate that he could be looking at them while in a relationship with me’

Sun Apr 28 2019 - 06:00
‘I want to leave my cheating girlfriend, but her mother just died’

‘I want to leave my cheating girlfriend, but her mother just died’

Ask Roe: She is begging me to stay, saying she needs me to get through her grief

Sun Apr 21 2019 - 06:00
‘I’m becoming controlling and aggressive in my relationship’

‘I’m becoming controlling and aggressive in my relationship’

Ask Roe: ‘I’m scared I’ll lose our connection but my behaviour is pushing them away’

Sun Apr 14 2019 - 06:00
‘I’m dating an older man, but I think he just wants sex’

‘I’m dating an older man, but I think he just wants sex’

Ask Roe: Remember 20-year-olds: That 30-year-old does not love you; they’re a creep

Sun Apr 07 2019 - 06:00
My boyfriend will not let me use a vibrator during sex

My boyfriend will not let me use a vibrator during sex

Ask Roe: It’s the only way I can orgasm. I’ve never climaxed through penetrative sex

Sun Mar 31 2019 - 06:00
My girlfriend is always saying she is too sick to have sex

My girlfriend is always saying she is too sick to have sex

Dear Roe: We have had sex twice in six months, I can see myself getting frustrated

Sun Mar 24 2019 - 06:00
My husband wants to schedule sex but this goes against my idea of fun and consent

My husband wants to schedule sex but this goes against my idea of fun and consent

Dear Roe: We’re lucky if we have sex once a month but find his idea a bit weird and transactionary

Sun Mar 17 2019 - 07:00
‘My wife has not wanted sex for 10 years’

‘My wife has not wanted sex for 10 years’

Dear Roe: ‘My lovely wife has a tiny belly and never wants me to see her body’

Sun Mar 10 2019 - 07:00
‘I’m worried that if I marry my boyfriend, I’ll miss being with someone smart’

‘I’m worried that if I marry my boyfriend, I’ll miss being with someone smart’

Ask Roe: ‘I usually know more than he does and he doesn’t challenge me like my exes did’

Sun Mar 03 2019 - 07:00
‘I’m a 40-year-old woman. How do I tell a man I’m a virgin?’

‘I’m a 40-year-old woman. How do I tell a man I’m a virgin?’

Ask Roe: Learning to trust yourself could be the key to developing the ability to trust others

Sun Feb 24 2019 - 07:00
‘My husband likes to wear women’s underwear. Is it madness that I put up with it?’

‘My husband likes to wear women’s underwear. Is it madness that I put up with it?’

For the last 20 years he has been wearing women’s underwear

Sun Feb 17 2019 - 07:00
‘How do I stop obsessing over a woman who turned me down?’

‘How do I stop obsessing over a woman who turned me down?’

Ask Roe: Crushes can be fun, joyful things. But not when they become intrusive

Sun Feb 10 2019 - 07:00
‘We’ve been married for 32 years but I found gay pornography on my husband’s phone’

‘We’ve been married for 32 years but I found gay pornography on my husband’s phone’

Dear Roe: Do I turn a blind eye to it for the sake of our kids or challenge him on it?

Sun Feb 03 2019 - 07:00
‘My partner has a hateful secret online life’

‘My partner has a hateful secret online life’

Dear Roe: He is spreading hate about women, immigrants and LGBT people. I am a bisexual woman of colour

Sun Jan 27 2019 - 00:00
My boyfriend is on a ‘sex strike’ . . . for the second time

My boyfriend is on a ‘sex strike’ . . . for the second time

Dear Roe: He called his first strike after his annoyance at me for not being adventurous

Sun Jan 20 2019 - 00:00
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