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‘We rushed into marriage, are stuck in a rut and now I'm considering cheating’

‘We rushed into marriage, are stuck in a rut and now I'm considering cheating’

Ask Roe: A co-worker wants a one-night stand with me but I’m not so sure if I will do it

Sun Aug 25 2019 - 06:00
‘I’ve been having sex with a friend for a year, and I’ve started to have feelings’

‘I’ve been having sex with a friend for a year, and I’ve started to have feelings’

Ask Roe: He has a partner. I know I’m going to get hurt but I don’t know how to end it

Sun Aug 18 2019 - 06:00
My girlfriend sulks if we don’t have sex and it’s bringing back painful memories

My girlfriend sulks if we don’t have sex and it’s bringing back painful memories

Ask Roe: My mother was narcissistic. My girlfriend doesn’t respect my boundaries, either

Fri Aug 09 2019 - 06:00
I’m 25, gay, single and insecure that all my straight friends are settling down

I’m 25, gay, single and insecure that all my straight friends are settling down

Ask Roe: I have a lot to give someone but no idea where to find them

Sun Aug 04 2019 - 06:00
‘How do I leave my partner without feeling guilty?’

‘How do I leave my partner without feeling guilty?’

Ask Roe: ‘He has been through addiction, depression and cancer and I find it so hard to leave’

Sun Jul 28 2019 - 06:00
I don’t want to cheat on my boyfriend, but I fantasise about other men

I don’t want to cheat on my boyfriend, but I fantasise about other men

Ask Roe: The idea of excitement, being wanted, has me thinking what it’d be like to kiss someone else

Sun Jul 21 2019 - 06:00
How long will it take me to get over my 10-year marriage?

How long will it take me to get over my 10-year marriage?

Ask Roe: I get sucked into chats on dating apps which lead to nothing and feel crushed

Sun Jul 14 2019 - 06:00
‘After 55 years together, my wife has left me. How do I get her back?’

‘After 55 years together, my wife has left me. How do I get her back?’

Ask Roe: To my mind I have not changed – for better or worse – but she has

Sun Jul 07 2019 - 06:00
‘The man I’m cheating on my husband with won’t commit to me’

‘The man I’m cheating on my husband with won’t commit to me’

Ask Roe: We’ve talked about being together but he’s reluctant to change his own life

Sun Jun 30 2019 - 06:00
‘I’m in love with my wife’s sister and want to tell her’

‘I’m in love with my wife’s sister and want to tell her’

Ask Roe: I know my wife would be devastated and I would end up losing a lot

Sun Jun 23 2019 - 06:00
‘What could be so wrong with me that no one has ever liked me?’

‘What could be so wrong with me that no one has ever liked me?’

Ask Roe: I’m always nice and cheerful and I’m great at my job, so why am I alone?

Sat Jun 15 2019 - 06:00
‘I have a fear of rejection, but now I’m scared I’ll be alone forever’

‘I have a fear of rejection, but now I’m scared I’ll be alone forever’

Ask Roe: Openness, vulnerability and compassion are the keys to everything you’re looking for

Sun Jun 09 2019 - 06:04
My partner acts quiet, awkward and disinterested in social situations

My partner acts quiet, awkward and disinterested in social situations

Ask Roe: He comes across as standoffish, which really hurts my feelings

Sun Jun 02 2019 - 06:00
‘I worry I don’t last long enough in bed. I don’t feel like a complete man’

‘I worry I don’t last long enough in bed. I don’t feel like a complete man’

Ask Roe: It’s sad that men judge their self-worth on unrealistic standards

Sun May 26 2019 - 06:00
‘My boyfriend is well endowed, and it’s making sex painful’

‘My boyfriend is well endowed, and it’s making sex painful’

Ask Roe: ‘I think he’s hitting my cervix during sex. Is that possible?’

Sun May 19 2019 - 06:00
‘My boyfriend has no friends and says I’m the only thing that makes him happy’

‘My boyfriend has no friends and says I’m the only thing that makes him happy’

Ask Roe: There’s a difference between appreciating you and being dependent on you

Sun May 12 2019 - 06:00
‘He said he loves me but he does not look forward to seeing me’

‘He said he loves me but he does not look forward to seeing me’

Ask Roe: I believed he was my match and I am not sure how to glue my heart together

Sun May 05 2019 - 06:00
‘My boyfriend keeps naked photos of his ex-girlfriends on his phone’

‘My boyfriend keeps naked photos of his ex-girlfriends on his phone’

Ask Roe: ‘I hate that he could be looking at them while in a relationship with me’

Sun Apr 28 2019 - 06:00
‘I want to leave my cheating girlfriend, but her mother just died’

‘I want to leave my cheating girlfriend, but her mother just died’

Ask Roe: She is begging me to stay, saying she needs me to get through her grief

Sun Apr 21 2019 - 06:00
‘I’m becoming controlling and aggressive in my relationship’

‘I’m becoming controlling and aggressive in my relationship’

Ask Roe: ‘I’m scared I’ll lose our connection but my behaviour is pushing them away’

Sun Apr 14 2019 - 06:00
‘I’m dating an older man, but I think he just wants sex’

‘I’m dating an older man, but I think he just wants sex’

Ask Roe: Remember 20-year-olds: That 30-year-old does not love you; they’re a creep

Sun Apr 07 2019 - 06:00
My boyfriend will not let me use a vibrator during sex

My boyfriend will not let me use a vibrator during sex

Ask Roe: It’s the only way I can orgasm. I’ve never climaxed through penetrative sex

Sun Mar 31 2019 - 06:00
My girlfriend is always saying she is too sick to have sex

My girlfriend is always saying she is too sick to have sex

Dear Roe: We have had sex twice in six months, I can see myself getting frustrated

Sun Mar 24 2019 - 06:00
My husband wants to schedule sex but this goes against my idea of fun and consent

My husband wants to schedule sex but this goes against my idea of fun and consent

Dear Roe: We’re lucky if we have sex once a month but find his idea a bit weird and transactionary

Sun Mar 17 2019 - 07:00
‘My wife has not wanted sex for 10 years’

‘My wife has not wanted sex for 10 years’

Dear Roe: ‘My lovely wife has a tiny belly and never wants me to see her body’

Sun Mar 10 2019 - 07:00
‘I’m worried that if I marry my boyfriend, I’ll miss being with someone smart’

‘I’m worried that if I marry my boyfriend, I’ll miss being with someone smart’

Ask Roe: ‘I usually know more than he does and he doesn’t challenge me like my exes did’

Sun Mar 03 2019 - 07:00
‘I’m a 40-year-old woman. How do I tell a man I’m a virgin?’

‘I’m a 40-year-old woman. How do I tell a man I’m a virgin?’

Ask Roe: Learning to trust yourself could be the key to developing the ability to trust others

Sun Feb 24 2019 - 07:00
‘My husband likes to wear women’s underwear. Is it madness that I put up with it?’

‘My husband likes to wear women’s underwear. Is it madness that I put up with it?’

For the last 20 years he has been wearing women’s underwear

Sun Feb 17 2019 - 07:00
‘How do I stop obsessing over a woman who turned me down?’

‘How do I stop obsessing over a woman who turned me down?’

Ask Roe: Crushes can be fun, joyful things. But not when they become intrusive

Sun Feb 10 2019 - 07:00
‘We’ve been married for 32 years but I found gay pornography on my husband’s phone’

‘We’ve been married for 32 years but I found gay pornography on my husband’s phone’

Dear Roe: Do I turn a blind eye to it for the sake of our kids or challenge him on it?

Sun Feb 03 2019 - 07:00
‘My partner has a hateful secret online life’

‘My partner has a hateful secret online life’

Dear Roe: He is spreading hate about women, immigrants and LGBT people. I am a bisexual woman of colour

Sun Jan 27 2019 - 00:00
My boyfriend is on a ‘sex strike’ . . . for the second time

My boyfriend is on a ‘sex strike’ . . . for the second time

Dear Roe: He called his first strike after his annoyance at me for not being adventurous

Sun Jan 20 2019 - 00:00
My wife kissed a lot of men before she met me and I can’t stop thinking about it

My wife kissed a lot of men before she met me and I can’t stop thinking about it

Dear Roe: She doesn’t know that I’ve found out about all these guys, should I confront her?

Sun Jan 13 2019 - 07:00
Is it possible to have no-strings sex with an ex?

Is it possible to have no-strings sex with an ex?

Dear Roe: I’m still attracted to my ex but I’m not looking for a relationship

Sun Dec 16 2018 - 07:00
We can't sleep in the same bed and I'm worried about our sex life

We can't sleep in the same bed and I'm worried about our sex life

Dear Roe: This simple issue is causing serious stress in our relationship. Any advice?

Sun Dec 09 2018 - 07:00
‘After six months I feel my partner should know if he wants to be in a relationship’

‘After six months I feel my partner should know if he wants to be in a relationship’

Dear Roe: ‘He says he is still confused about what he is looking for after his divorce’

Sun Dec 02 2018 - 07:00
‘My girlfriend is sexting another man and thinks it’s not cheating’

‘My girlfriend is sexting another man and thinks it’s not cheating’

Dear Roe: ‘She acts like she didn’t really do anything wrong, which seems crazy to me’

Sun Nov 25 2018 - 06:00
‘How do we reinvigorate our sex life after 13 years together?’

‘How do we reinvigorate our sex life after 13 years together?’

Ask Roe: ‘We have brought up the idea of spicing things up... Any advice that doesn’t involve using whipped cream?’

Sun Nov 18 2018 - 07:00
‘My boyfriend has lost his libido and I don’t know what to do’

‘My boyfriend has lost his libido and I don’t know what to do’

Ask Roe: ‘He refuses to discuss it and seems content to continue living this way. I cannot’

Sun Nov 11 2018 - 07:00
‘My boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex when I have my period’

‘My boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex when I have my period’

Ask Roe: ‘The idea of nonreciprocal sexual activity just feels off’

Sun Nov 04 2018 - 07:00
‘My partner of 16 years is cheating on me but I can’t imagine life without him’

‘My partner of 16 years is cheating on me but I can’t imagine life without him’

Had I not seen the texts I believe he would still be in touch with her

Sun Oct 28 2018 - 07:00
‘My ex was a terrible person but I can’t stop looking at his social media’

‘My ex was a terrible person but I can’t stop looking at his social media’

Ask Roe: He’s with a beautiful woman, and I torture myself by looking at their profiles

Sun Oct 21 2018 - 07:00
‘Should I try to rekindle my holiday romance?’

‘Should I try to rekindle my holiday romance?’

Ask Roe: We never discussed doing long distance. I’m haunted I never brought it up

Sun Oct 14 2018 - 07:00
‘The Pill is making me sick, but my boyfriend won’t wear condoms’

‘The Pill is making me sick, but my boyfriend won’t wear condoms’

Some women’s bodies are incompatible with hormonal birth control. You may be one of them

Sun Oct 07 2018 - 07:00
‘I like being single but dread going to weddings. What can I do?’

‘I like being single but dread going to weddings. What can I do?’

Ask Roe: ‘I find it hard to psych myself up for a day of mingling – and some standing alone’

Sun Sept 30 2018 - 07:00
‘My 15-year-old son wants to dress in girls’ clothing’

‘My 15-year-old son wants to dress in girls’ clothing’

My son is convinced he’s genderfluid. He has told me that’s it’s not a passing phase

Sun Sept 23 2018 - 06:40
‘We’ve been together 18 months but my boyfriend won’t have sex with me’

‘We’ve been together 18 months but my boyfriend won’t have sex with me’

He admitted he loves me once but he never ever says ‘I love you’

Sun Sept 16 2018 - 07:00
‘Do I have to tell a guy I’m a virgin?’

‘Do I have to tell a guy I’m a virgin?’

I’m worried he’ll think I’ll turn out to be clingy or in love with him or something

Sun Sept 09 2018 - 07:00
I’m a PhD student and I keep fantasising about my supervisor. What should I do?

I’m a PhD student and I keep fantasising about my supervisor. What should I do?

He’s not even incredibly good-looking, but I just find how his mind works irresistible

Sun Sept 02 2018 - 07:00
‘How do I know if I’m any good at sex?’

‘How do I know if I’m any good at sex?’

Ask Roe: I’ve read that women often feel uncomfortable asking for what they want

Sun Aug 26 2018 - 07:00
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