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I’m cheating and don’t want to give up either man. What should I do?

I’m cheating and don’t want to give up either man. What should I do?

Ask Roe: ‘I need both of them to function and love both deeply but differently’

Sun Nov 07 2021 - 06:00
‘My partner is a good person but there is little laughter, excitement or enthusiasm’

‘My partner is a good person but there is little laughter, excitement or enthusiasm’

Ask Roe: 'He sucks the joy out of everything for me. What can I do?'

Sat Oct 30 2021 - 06:00
‘My whirlwind romance has left me hurt and heartbroken’

‘My whirlwind romance has left me hurt and heartbroken’

‘I keep thinking what’s wrong with me? Why doesn’t he want to be with me?’

Sun Oct 24 2021 - 06:00
How do I start dating after a mental health break?

How do I start dating after a mental health break?

You’re already ahead of the curve in how to make connections that feel healthy, authentic and fulfilling

Sat Oct 23 2021 - 06:00
I caught my daughter having sex with her pregnant sister’s boyfriend

I caught my daughter having sex with her pregnant sister’s boyfriend

I’m in the middle of my two daughters and my husband – who is very upset at the situation

Sat Oct 16 2021 - 06:00
I’m a 20-year-old female virgin, struggling to make that first move

I’m a 20-year-old female virgin, struggling to make that first move

I feel nervous at the prospect of re-entering the dating world with a severe lack of experience

Sat Oct 09 2021 - 00:00
My partner wants to open up our relationship

My partner wants to open up our relationship

Dear Roe: I don’t think I’m emotionally ready for us to start sleeping with other people

Sun Oct 03 2021 - 00:00
Should I tell my ex how much she hurt me?

Should I tell my ex how much she hurt me?

Ask Roe: I was ill and unable to be the person she needed – maybe that’s why she fell out of love

Sat Sept 25 2021 - 06:00
Ask Roe: My ex is making me feel guilty for being on dating apps

Ask Roe: My ex is making me feel guilty for being on dating apps

Both of you need to stop monitoring each other’s social and dating activities

Sat Sept 18 2021 - 06:00
My boyfriend hides his genitals from me and I’m panicking

My boyfriend hides his genitals from me and I’m panicking

Ask Roe: If you can’t accept your boyfriend’s boundaries around his body, you should not be with him

Sun Sept 12 2021 - 06:00
My boyfriend is perfect, but I have a crush on a co-worker

My boyfriend is perfect, but I have a crush on a co-worker

Ask Roe: You can find someone else attractive while loving your boyfriend

Fri Sept 10 2021 - 23:54
I’m suspicious of my new boyfriend’s need for privacy

I’m suspicious of my new boyfriend’s need for privacy

Ask Roe: It is early in your relationship to expect full access to your new man’s complete social circle

Sun Sept 05 2021 - 00:00
‘My partner was raised in a religious family and won’t discuss sex’

‘My partner was raised in a religious family and won’t discuss sex’

Ask Roe: Open communication is a necessary requirement for a healthy sex life and relationship

Sun Aug 22 2021 - 06:00
My husband is cheating again and I don’t know what to do

My husband is cheating again and I don’t know what to do

Ask Roe: I thought the life post-booze was a fresh start, but here we are again

Sun Aug 15 2021 - 06:00
‘My ex-boyfriend died and I’m struggling with my grief’

‘My ex-boyfriend died and I’m struggling with my grief’

Ask Roe: The loss of your ex is not the loss of your future, or your chance for love and romance

Sat Aug 07 2021 - 06:00
My wife is bored in our relationship and I don't know what to do

My wife is bored in our relationship and I don't know what to do

Talking about boredom in relationships can be an invitation to honesty and insight

Sat Jul 31 2021 - 06:00
I’m 30, have never dated anyone and am unsure of my sexuality

I’m 30, have never dated anyone and am unsure of my sexuality

All the advice seems to be for people certain of their sexuality and who want to come out

Sat Jul 24 2021 - 06:00
‘The men I love always just want to be friends’

‘The men I love always just want to be friends’

Ask Roe: Don’t settle for men who want the ol’-buddy-ol’-pal version of you

Sat Jul 17 2021 - 06:00
‘My wife publicly mocks my erectile dysfunction and blames me for our dwindling sex life’

‘My wife publicly mocks my erectile dysfunction and blames me for our dwindling sex life’

Ask Roe: ‘I’m in my 50s and although I adore her I find my wife incredibly intimidating’

Sat Jul 10 2021 - 06:00
Was I too hasty in leaving my uncertain boyfriend?

Was I too hasty in leaving my uncertain boyfriend?

Ask Roe: He said he needed time to think about how he was feeling and it floored me

Sat Jul 03 2021 - 06:00
‘My partner’s depression is affecting our sex life’

‘My partner’s depression is affecting our sex life’

I still want a sexual relationship and find him extremely attractive

Sat Jun 26 2021 - 06:00
‘I am obsessed with my boyfriend’s ex. How can I move on?’

‘I am obsessed with my boyfriend’s ex. How can I move on?’

Ask Roe: I know it is unhealthy to be preoccupied with their relationship but I feel irrationally jealous

Sun Jun 20 2021 - 06:00
‘My fiancée thinks I’ll change my mind about having kids, but I won’t’

‘My fiancée thinks I’ll change my mind about having kids, but I won’t’

Ask Roe: ‘Other than the child issue our relationship is great’

Sun Jun 13 2021 - 00:01
‘I called my boyfriend by my ex’s name during sex’

‘I called my boyfriend by my ex’s name during sex’

Ask Roe: ‘I don’t feel anything towards my ex and want a future with my current boyfriend’

Sat Jun 05 2021 - 17:00
'I can't get over my secret fling with my brother's friend'

'I can't get over my secret fling with my brother's friend'

Ask Roe: ‘I don’t know why he automatically assumed it would end badly’

Sun May 30 2021 - 06:00
I’ve met a good man so why am I drawn back to one who treats me terribly?

I’ve met a good man so why am I drawn back to one who treats me terribly?

Ask Roe: Will I ever be able to have a healthy relationship after all I’ve been through?

Sun May 23 2021 - 06:00
'We're married with a toddler and Covid has destroyed our sex life'

'We're married with a toddler and Covid has destroyed our sex life'

Ask Roe: 'Our finances have been a struggle and we’re both exhausted working from home'

Sun May 16 2021 - 06:00
‘I had a break-up during the pandemic and don’t know how to process it’

‘I had a break-up during the pandemic and don’t know how to process it’

Ask Roe: I think Covid-19 was one of the causes of the break-up and I never got closure

Sun May 09 2021 - 06:00
‘I’m falling in love with my online language tutor’

‘I’m falling in love with my online language tutor’

Ask Roe: ‘My tutor has such similar life experiences, taste in music and pop culture as I do and we can while away an hour just chatting’

Mon May 03 2021 - 06:00
‘My girlfriend’s extreme mood swings are ruining our relationship’

‘My girlfriend’s extreme mood swings are ruining our relationship’

Ask Roe: The persistent sapping of my energy is getting under my skin; I’m walking on eggshells

Sun Apr 25 2021 - 07:22
‘My ex-girlfriend is my one social contact and it’s getting unhealthy’

‘My ex-girlfriend is my one social contact and it’s getting unhealthy’

Ask Roe: ‘I’m dependent on her for support and company and she’s aware of that’

Sun Apr 18 2021 - 07:45
‘I’m cheating on my husband with a married man – can we ever trust each other?’

‘I’m cheating on my husband with a married man – can we ever trust each other?’

Ask Roe: We are mad about each other and have talked about a future together

Sun Apr 11 2021 - 06:00
My cheating ex-husband got his Happy Ever After – and I can’t move past my anger

My cheating ex-husband got his Happy Ever After – and I can’t move past my anger

Ask Roe: ‘I did absolutely nothing wrong and yet I’m the one who’s suffering’

Sun Apr 04 2021 - 06:00
‘My perfect man wants to move continents – should I go with him?’

‘My perfect man wants to move continents – should I go with him?’

Ask Roe: ‘I don’t meet incredible men every day, but I’m worried about uprooting my life’

Sun Mar 28 2021 - 06:00
‘My girlfriend wants to start sexting and I don’t know where to start’

‘My girlfriend wants to start sexting and I don’t know where to start’

Ask Roe: ‘We have been limited in how much we can see each other during Covid’

Sun Mar 21 2021 - 06:00
I’ve been single during Covid and feel like everyone has forgotten about me

I’ve been single during Covid and feel like everyone has forgotten about me

Ask Roe: I have housemates who are perfectly nice people but we are not friends

Sun Mar 14 2021 - 06:00
‘I’m dating my friend’s ex-boyfriend and she’s furious with me’

‘I’m dating my friend’s ex-boyfriend and she’s furious with me’

Ask Roe: ‘I feel like a lifetime ban on seeing her ex feels ridiculous’

Sun Mar 07 2021 - 06:00
‘My girlfriend wants to get married – but I’m not sure she loves me’

‘My girlfriend wants to get married – but I’m not sure she loves me’

Ask Roe: ‘She bosses me around a lot and can be very demanding’

Sun Feb 28 2021 - 06:00
We are married, in our 60s and my husband wants to wear women’s clothes

We are married, in our 60s and my husband wants to wear women’s clothes

Ask Roe: Our sex life has always been good, though not adventurous

Sun Feb 21 2021 - 00:00
How do I overcome my severe anxiety in relationships?

How do I overcome my severe anxiety in relationships?

Ask Roe: I’m unable to maintain intimate connection with others even though I crave it

Sun Feb 14 2021 - 00:00
Does he like me or is he using me for sex?

Does he like me or is he using me for sex?

Ask Roe: ‘Should I believe what he says or is he just using me as a second option?’

Sun Feb 07 2021 - 06:00
My husband has severe Alzheimer’s and I’m having an affair

My husband has severe Alzheimer’s and I’m having an affair

Ask Roe: I no longer work as my husband needs help with day-to-day tasks and he has nobody else

Sun Jan 31 2021 - 06:00
‘I think my friend’s in an abusive relationship and I don’t know how to help her’

‘I think my friend’s in an abusive relationship and I don’t know how to help her’

Ask Roe: ‘How I can help without interfering or making things worse’

Sun Jan 24 2021 - 06:00
Should I end my strained relationship amid the Covid-19 pandemic?

Should I end my strained relationship amid the Covid-19 pandemic?

Ask Roe: I lost my job and some friends over Covid, should I also lose my strained relationship?

Sun Jan 17 2021 - 06:00
‘I am embarrassed to admit that I miss dating so much’

‘I am embarrassed to admit that I miss dating so much’

Ask Roe: ‘My friends don’t take me seriously when I say it’s affecting my mental health’

Sun Jan 10 2021 - 06:00
‘My boyfriend suddenly left me and I’m desperate for closure’

‘My boyfriend suddenly left me and I’m desperate for closure’

Ask Roe: ‘How can he turn 180 degrees and end things as if nothing ever happened?’

Sun Dec 20 2020 - 06:00
‘My ex ghosted me and I can’t stop obsessing over him’

‘My ex ghosted me and I can’t stop obsessing over him’

Ask Roe: ‘When we were dating he told me he couldn’t meet anyone better than me’

Sun Dec 13 2020 - 06:00
Is it worth going to therapy during Covid-19 and is it even possible?

Is it worth going to therapy during Covid-19 and is it even possible?

Ask Roe: I had a challenging childhood and have found it difficult to think I’m worthy of love

Sun Dec 06 2020 - 06:00
‘Covid has made my relationship boring and I want to end it’

‘Covid has made my relationship boring and I want to end it’

Ask Roe: ‘Is it stupid to end something just because the pandemic is making it harder?’

Sun Nov 29 2020 - 00:00
‘I’m fed up of being body-shamed by my wife’

‘I’m fed up of being body-shamed by my wife’

Ask Roe: ‘It’s got to a stage where I don’t want to get undressed in front of her’

Sun Nov 22 2020 - 00:00
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