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I’m 30, have never dated anyone and am unsure of my sexuality

I’m 30, have never dated anyone and am unsure of my sexuality

All the advice seems to be for people certain of their sexuality and who want to come out

Sat Jul 24 2021 - 06:00
‘The men I love always just want to be friends’

‘The men I love always just want to be friends’

Ask Roe: Don’t settle for men who want the ol’-buddy-ol’-pal version of you

Sat Jul 17 2021 - 06:00
‘My wife publicly mocks my erectile dysfunction and blames me for our dwindling sex life’

‘My wife publicly mocks my erectile dysfunction and blames me for our dwindling sex life’

Ask Roe: ‘I’m in my 50s and although I adore her I find my wife incredibly intimidating’

Sat Jul 10 2021 - 06:00
Was I too hasty in leaving my uncertain boyfriend?

Was I too hasty in leaving my uncertain boyfriend?

Ask Roe: He said he needed time to think about how he was feeling and it floored me

Sat Jul 03 2021 - 06:00
‘My partner’s depression is affecting our sex life’

‘My partner’s depression is affecting our sex life’

I still want a sexual relationship and find him extremely attractive

Sat Jun 26 2021 - 06:00
‘I am obsessed with my boyfriend’s ex. How can I move on?’

‘I am obsessed with my boyfriend’s ex. How can I move on?’

Ask Roe: I know it is unhealthy to be preoccupied with their relationship but I feel irrationally jealous

Sun Jun 20 2021 - 06:00
‘My fiancée thinks I’ll change my mind about having kids, but I won’t’

‘My fiancée thinks I’ll change my mind about having kids, but I won’t’

Ask Roe: ‘Other than the child issue our relationship is great’

Sun Jun 13 2021 - 00:01
‘I called my boyfriend by my ex’s name during sex’

‘I called my boyfriend by my ex’s name during sex’

Ask Roe: ‘I don’t feel anything towards my ex and want a future with my current boyfriend’

Sat Jun 05 2021 - 17:00
'I can't get over my secret fling with my brother's friend'

'I can't get over my secret fling with my brother's friend'

Ask Roe: ‘I don’t know why he automatically assumed it would end badly’

Sun May 30 2021 - 06:00
I’ve met a good man so why am I drawn back to one who treats me terribly?

I’ve met a good man so why am I drawn back to one who treats me terribly?

Ask Roe: Will I ever be able to have a healthy relationship after all I’ve been through?

Sun May 23 2021 - 06:00
'We're married with a toddler and Covid has destroyed our sex life'

'We're married with a toddler and Covid has destroyed our sex life'

Ask Roe: 'Our finances have been a struggle and we’re both exhausted working from home'

Sun May 16 2021 - 06:00
‘I had a break-up during the pandemic and don’t know how to process it’

‘I had a break-up during the pandemic and don’t know how to process it’

Ask Roe: I think Covid-19 was one of the causes of the break-up and I never got closure

Sun May 09 2021 - 06:00
‘I’m falling in love with my online language tutor’

‘I’m falling in love with my online language tutor’

Ask Roe: ‘My tutor has such similar life experiences, taste in music and pop culture as I do and we can while away an hour just chatting’

Mon May 03 2021 - 06:00
‘My girlfriend’s extreme mood swings are ruining our relationship’

‘My girlfriend’s extreme mood swings are ruining our relationship’

Ask Roe: The persistent sapping of my energy is getting under my skin; I’m walking on eggshells

Sun Apr 25 2021 - 07:22
‘My ex-girlfriend is my one social contact and it’s getting unhealthy’

‘My ex-girlfriend is my one social contact and it’s getting unhealthy’

Ask Roe: ‘I’m dependent on her for support and company and she’s aware of that’

Sun Apr 18 2021 - 07:45
‘I’m cheating on my husband with a married man – can we ever trust each other?’

‘I’m cheating on my husband with a married man – can we ever trust each other?’

Ask Roe: We are mad about each other and have talked about a future together

Sun Apr 11 2021 - 06:00
My cheating ex-husband got his Happy Ever After – and I can’t move past my anger

My cheating ex-husband got his Happy Ever After – and I can’t move past my anger

Ask Roe: ‘I did absolutely nothing wrong and yet I’m the one who’s suffering’

Sun Apr 04 2021 - 06:00
‘My perfect man wants to move continents – should I go with him?’

‘My perfect man wants to move continents – should I go with him?’

Ask Roe: ‘I don’t meet incredible men every day, but I’m worried about uprooting my life’

Sun Mar 28 2021 - 06:00
‘My girlfriend wants to start sexting and I don’t know where to start’

‘My girlfriend wants to start sexting and I don’t know where to start’

Ask Roe: ‘We have been limited in how much we can see each other during Covid’

Sun Mar 21 2021 - 06:00
I’ve been single during Covid and feel like everyone has forgotten about me

I’ve been single during Covid and feel like everyone has forgotten about me

Ask Roe: I have housemates who are perfectly nice people but we are not friends

Sun Mar 14 2021 - 06:00
‘I’m dating my friend’s ex-boyfriend and she’s furious with me’

‘I’m dating my friend’s ex-boyfriend and she’s furious with me’

Ask Roe: ‘I feel like a lifetime ban on seeing her ex feels ridiculous’

Sun Mar 07 2021 - 06:00
‘My girlfriend wants to get married – but I’m not sure she loves me’

‘My girlfriend wants to get married – but I’m not sure she loves me’

Ask Roe: ‘She bosses me around a lot and can be very demanding’

Sun Feb 28 2021 - 06:00
We are married, in our 60s and my husband wants to wear women’s clothes

We are married, in our 60s and my husband wants to wear women’s clothes

Ask Roe: Our sex life has always been good, though not adventurous

Sun Feb 21 2021 - 00:00
How do I overcome my severe anxiety in relationships?

How do I overcome my severe anxiety in relationships?

Ask Roe: I’m unable to maintain intimate connection with others even though I crave it

Sun Feb 14 2021 - 00:00
Does he like me or is he using me for sex?

Does he like me or is he using me for sex?

Ask Roe: ‘Should I believe what he says or is he just using me as a second option?’

Sun Feb 07 2021 - 06:00
My husband has severe Alzheimer’s and I’m having an affair

My husband has severe Alzheimer’s and I’m having an affair

Ask Roe: I no longer work as my husband needs help with day-to-day tasks and he has nobody else

Sun Jan 31 2021 - 06:00
‘I think my friend’s in an abusive relationship and I don’t know how to help her’

‘I think my friend’s in an abusive relationship and I don’t know how to help her’

Ask Roe: ‘How I can help without interfering or making things worse’

Sun Jan 24 2021 - 06:00
Should I end my strained relationship amid the Covid-19 pandemic?

Should I end my strained relationship amid the Covid-19 pandemic?

Ask Roe: I lost my job and some friends over Covid, should I also lose my strained relationship?

Sun Jan 17 2021 - 06:00
‘I am embarrassed to admit that I miss dating so much’

‘I am embarrassed to admit that I miss dating so much’

Ask Roe: ‘My friends don’t take me seriously when I say it’s affecting my mental health’

Sun Jan 10 2021 - 06:00
‘My boyfriend suddenly left me and I’m desperate for closure’

‘My boyfriend suddenly left me and I’m desperate for closure’

Ask Roe: ‘How can he turn 180 degrees and end things as if nothing ever happened?’

Sun Dec 20 2020 - 06:00
‘My ex ghosted me and I can’t stop obsessing over him’

‘My ex ghosted me and I can’t stop obsessing over him’

Ask Roe: ‘When we were dating he told me he couldn’t meet anyone better than me’

Sun Dec 13 2020 - 06:00
Is it worth going to therapy during Covid-19 and is it even possible?

Is it worth going to therapy during Covid-19 and is it even possible?

Ask Roe: I had a challenging childhood and have found it difficult to think I’m worthy of love

Sun Dec 06 2020 - 06:00
‘Covid has made my relationship boring and I want to end it’

‘Covid has made my relationship boring and I want to end it’

Ask Roe: ‘Is it stupid to end something just because the pandemic is making it harder?’

Sun Nov 29 2020 - 00:00
‘I’m fed up of being body-shamed by my wife’

‘I’m fed up of being body-shamed by my wife’

Ask Roe: ‘It’s got to a stage where I don’t want to get undressed in front of her’

Sun Nov 22 2020 - 00:00
My partner is pushing me to experiment in bed but I do not feel safe or respected

My partner is pushing me to experiment in bed but I do not feel safe or respected

Ask Roe: Your partner is not a safe person to have sex with. He’s not listening to you

Sun Nov 15 2020 - 06:00
My husband and I disagree on how to support our non-binary child

My husband and I disagree on how to support our non-binary child

Dear Roe: ‘She has started to ask for us to call her by a boy’s name’

Sun Nov 08 2020 - 06:00
‘My marriage struggled during the first lockdown ... I’m scared it won’t survive the second’

‘My marriage struggled during the first lockdown ... I’m scared it won’t survive the second’

Ask Roe: ‘This is meant to be our honeymoon year ... but I’m dreading the next few weeks’

Sun Nov 01 2020 - 06:00
‘I’m sleeping with my ex-boyfriend and want him back – but don’t want to scare him off’

‘I’m sleeping with my ex-boyfriend and want him back – but don’t want to scare him off’

Ask Roe: ‘I don’t know how to broach this with him without putting pressure on him’

Sun Oct 25 2020 - 06:00
I can’t stop thinking about my childhood crush who rejected me

I can’t stop thinking about my childhood crush who rejected me

Ask Roe: I feel inadequate, ugly, and broken-hearted. How do I move on?

Sun Oct 18 2020 - 06:00
My husband is upset because I didn't initiate our sex schedule

My husband is upset because I didn't initiate our sex schedule

Ask Roe: We agreed on having sex twice a week, but two weeks passed and I couldn’t initiate it

Sun Oct 11 2020 - 06:00
My insecurity and constant need for validation is pushing my boyfriend away

My insecurity and constant need for validation is pushing my boyfriend away

You’ve already taken a big step by recognising that you want and deserve healthier relationships

Sun Oct 04 2020 - 06:00
My friends keep mocking my new boyfriend’s small penis

My friends keep mocking my new boyfriend’s small penis

Ask Roe: I want our relationship to work but I fear someone will say something cruel

Sun Sept 27 2020 - 06:00
I had to move back home – and I can’t stand hearing my parents’ loud sex

I had to move back home – and I can’t stand hearing my parents’ loud sex

Ask Roe: Their Sunday morning ritual clouds my entire weekend with anxiety

Sun Sept 20 2020 - 06:00
‘How do I break up with my long-term girlfriend without being the bad guy?’

‘How do I break up with my long-term girlfriend without being the bad guy?’

Postponing the conversation is trading short-term discomfort for long-term unhappiness

Sun Sept 13 2020 - 06:00
‘The man I’m having an affair with won’t let me leave him’

‘The man I’m having an affair with won’t let me leave him’

Ask Roe: I hate that I have to give you a list of things to do to keep yourself safe as you leave

Sun Sept 06 2020 - 06:00
‘I’ve been openly homophobic but secretly cross-dress. How do I tell my girlfriend?’

‘I’ve been openly homophobic but secretly cross-dress. How do I tell my girlfriend?’

Ask Roe: ‘I want her to know this side of me but fear she won’t be understanding and will tell people’

Sun Aug 30 2020 - 06:00
My boyfriend wanted to keep his sexuality secret, but a colleague outed us. Now he won’t talk to me

My boyfriend wanted to keep his sexuality secret, but a colleague outed us. Now he won’t talk to me

‘I am already late in settling down. Should I move on or try to rescue the relationship?’

Sun Aug 23 2020 - 06:00
‘I’m in a long-distance relationship and now dread our phone call every night’

‘I’m in a long-distance relationship and now dread our phone call every night’

Ask Roe: Before Covid-19, we would see each other once or twice a month, and go on holidays

Sun Aug 16 2020 - 00:00
‘I’m lonely during lockdown and looking for casual sex. How do I do that safely?’

‘I’m lonely during lockdown and looking for casual sex. How do I do that safely?’

Ask Roe: ‘I’ve been single for more than a year after a bad break-up, and I’d like to date again’

Thu Aug 13 2020 - 06:00
‘I’ve been sleeping with my girlfriend’s sister. I need help. What do I do?’

‘I’ve been sleeping with my girlfriend’s sister. I need help. What do I do?’

Ask Roe: ‘My girlfriend is a frontline worker, so her sister and I were together alone a lot’

Tue Aug 11 2020 - 06:20
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