O’Hara family victim impact statement read at Dwyer sentencing

‘We have lost a daughter, a sister and a friend in the most brutal, traumatic and horrifying manner’

Work colleagues of Elaine O'Hara respond after her murderer Graham Dwyer is sentenced to life in prison.

The sentence hearing of Graham Dwyer, convicted of the murder of childcare worker Elaine O'Hara in 2012, has heard a victim impact statement written by the victim's father Frank O'Hara.

The court heard that Ms O’Hara was “a very intelligent girl who never fully realised her potential” who was “always there to help others”.

The statement said the O’Hara family “lost a daughter, a sister and a friend in the most brutal, traumatic and horrifying manner”.

The statement, read into the court record by Sean Guerin SC, for the prosecution, said the family have many unanswered questions that they will have to carry for the rest of their lives.

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The full statement can be read below.

Victim Impact Statement

We know that we are not the only victims of this crime. We recognise that other families are suffering too and we feel for every other person affected.

Words cannot adequately describe how we are feeling and we would never want any other family to go through what we have endured over the past two and a half years.

We have lost a daughter, a sister and a friend in the most brutal, traumatic and horrifying manner.

We also have many unanswered questions which we will have to carry with us for the rest of our lives.

Elaine was a very intelligent girl who never fully realised her potential due to her psychological difficulties. She was prescribed a lot of medication and this did have an impact on her ability to be a regular teenager, particularly socially.

She was emotionally immature and very trusting of anyone who showed her kindness. In later years her medication was reduced, hospital stays became less common and she functioned more effectively. However, she had missed out on those important, formative teenage years.

She had a strong work ethic and loved working with children, as she could identify with them more easily than adults.

She was always there to help and assist others, giving lifts, covering shifts at work or collecting many of the items for the Christmas Fair at school.

Elaine adored her niece who was also her god daughter and loved reading, painting and playing with her. For months after she went missing, her goddaughter would point out cars that were like Elaine’s saying “there’s Elaine’s car”.

We smiled and nodded. How could we explain something to a young child that we couldn’t understand ourselves?

Since she left us, Elaine has two more nieces but they will never know their aunt.

Elaine’s ambition was to be a teacher and she was studying Montessori. In 2014, we collected a BA in Montessori education which was awarded to her in St. Nicholas Montessori School. She would have been so happy and proud to stand up in her gown and hat to accept her degree herself after overcoming many obstacles to finally get the qualification she longed for, but unfortunately this was not to be.

When Elaine went missing in August 2012, we were devastated.

At that time she appeared to us to be progressing well in life. She had a new apartment, was studying and working in two jobs. She had a setback in July 2012, and was voluntarily admitted to hospital. However, on weekend release, she was in very good form and was looking forward to the future.

The assumed suicide in August 2012 was a surprise to all the family but lack of evidence pointing to any other cause for her disappearance meant we reluctantly needed to accept that she had most likely taken her own life in or around Shanganagh. We spent many hours walking the shore from Blackrock to Bray searching for any sign of her. A year after her disappearance, we laid flowers in the sea at Shanganagh in her memory and in an effort to find some closure for us as a family.

Our attempt at closure was premature as when in September 2013 Elaine’s remains were discovered, the Garda investigation changed from that of a missing person to murder. This led to further anguish for the family as we now faced the unimaginable horror of Elaine having been murdered.

This trial has been an incredibly difficult experience.

It was distressing to see Elaine’s private life laid bare before the nation despite the fact that she was the victim. Some of the reporting in the print media was insulting to Elaine and deeply upsetting to the family. At times, Elaine’s life was relegated to a lurid headline in a newspaper.

It was heartbreaking for us to listen to the texts received from a “depraved and diseased mind”. The manipulation of her vulnerability was apparent and when she tried to resist, she was reined back in. We can hear her voice in the texts, she just wanted to be loved.

Hearing the content of the videos will haunt us forever.

We were upset that the credibility of our evidence was questioned in the two and a half years. All we wanted was the truth and justice for Elaine.

We will probably never know what happened in Killakee on Wednesday August 22nd 2012 but there are questions that trouble us:

When did she realise it was not a game anymore?

When did she realise that the intention was to kill her for real?

Did she try and run away?

Was she restrained?

Did she suffer much?

Could she and did she cry out?

Was she left on the mountain to die alone?

This is our life sentence. For us, there is no parole.