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I think my husband wants me to cheat on him

I think my husband wants me to cheat on him

Tell Me About It: He is turned on when talking about his former partners’ affairs

Wed Apr 24 2019 - 06:01
‘My daughter hated me when she was a teenager and she still does’

‘My daughter hated me when she was a teenager and she still does’

Tell me about it: She is in her 40s but still says hurtful things to me

Wed Apr 17 2019 - 06:01
I have no feelings for my husband and have found love with a woman

I have no feelings for my husband and have found love with a woman

Tell me about it: ‘I don’t want to hurt them both and especially not my kids’

Wed Apr 10 2019 - 06:01
I’m terrified my alcoholic husband will go back to his old ways

I’m terrified my alcoholic husband will go back to his old ways

Tell Me About It: He no longer drinks but I feel if I’m not vigilant he’ll go back to his old ways

Wed Apr 03 2019 - 08:41
I have noticed a number of worrying changes in my partner

I have noticed a number of worrying changes in my partner

Tell Me About It: When we met 11 years ago he had just been diagnosis with depression

Wed Mar 27 2019 - 06:01
I’ve been warned my fiancé may have been violent towards his ex-wife

I’ve been warned my fiancé may have been violent towards his ex-wife

Tell Me About It: ‘He has always been gentle with me. But I can’t stop thinking about this’

Wed Mar 20 2019 - 06:01
I love my job but I suspect that people using our services could be at risk

I love my job but I suspect that people using our services could be at risk

Tell Me About It: Should I express my concerns to senior management?

Wed Mar 13 2019 - 06:01
‘Last year I had a big win on the national lottery, but I still haven't told my girlfriend’

‘Last year I had a big win on the national lottery, but I still haven't told my girlfriend’

Dear Trish: ‘I do trust my girlfriend, but I also know she aspires to having a lavish lifestyle’

Wed Mar 06 2019 - 06:01
Should I contact a half-brother I’ve never met?

Should I contact a half-brother I’ve never met?

Tell Me About It: I worry that I would overstep the mark and cause havoc in their family

Wed Feb 27 2019 - 06:01
My internet lover of 12 years is suddenly warning me off

My internet lover of 12 years is suddenly warning me off

Tell me about it: He invited me to visit his country and stay with him but is now telling me to have no expectations of romance

Wed Feb 20 2019 - 06:01
How can I help my daughter who has overcome many obstacles in her life so far?

How can I help my daughter who has overcome many obstacles in her life so far?

Tell Me About It: Let her see you engage with life and pull enjoyment and joy out of it

Wed Feb 13 2019 - 06:01
My girlfriend is not happy with my cross-dressing

My girlfriend is not happy with my cross-dressing

Tell Me About It: I sense my cross-dressing is a touchy subject with my girlfriend as marriage looms on the horizon

Wed Feb 06 2019 - 06:01
Is six months of a relationship too soon to move across the world together?

Is six months of a relationship too soon to move across the world together?

Tell Me About It: ‘Our choices are limited and she is rushing for a decision’

Wed Jan 30 2019 - 06:01
‘My boyfriend fled again – this time he was really gone’

‘My boyfriend fled again – this time he was really gone’

Tell me about it: My now ex-boyfriend never cared for me as I cared for him

Wed Jan 23 2019 - 06:01
Blue Monday: We don’t need a day of dread. We need compassion

Blue Monday: We don’t need a day of dread. We need compassion

Moaning about Mondays can create a false reality, writes psychotherapist Trish Murphy

Mon Jan 21 2019 - 05:10
I’ve met someone after my wife’s death but I feel guilty about the relationship

I’ve met someone after my wife’s death but I feel guilty about the relationship

Tell Me About It: I feel guilty about my wife’s family, and my children don’t approve

Wed Jan 16 2019 - 06:01
‘I can’t stand being around my wife and child’

‘I can’t stand being around my wife and child’

Tell me about it: Since our four-year-old daughter was born, I feel completely left out

Wed Jan 09 2019 - 06:01
‘My adult children are exhibiting similar addictive traits as their father’

‘My adult children are exhibiting similar addictive traits as their father’

Tell Me About It: ‘My ex-partner says I am exaggerating about our children’s issues’

Wed Dec 19 2018 - 06:01
DNA tests show my brother and I may not be related

DNA tests show my brother and I may not be related

Tell me about it: We did it for fun and now it could blow our family apart

Wed Dec 12 2018 - 06:01
‘My partner is acting like my carer when I want him to be my lover’

‘My partner is acting like my carer when I want him to be my lover’

Tell Me About It: ‘His hypervigilance about my mental health is causing me more stress

Wed Dec 05 2018 - 06:01
‘I’m disappointed my daughter didn’t tell me sooner she is gay’

‘I’m disappointed my daughter didn’t tell me sooner she is gay’

Tell Me About It: ‘I thought we were close despite the geographic distance between us’

Wed Nov 28 2018 - 06:01
‘I’ve had girlfriends and been emotionally attached but I don’t want to have sex’

‘I’ve had girlfriends and been emotionally attached but I don’t want to have sex’

Tell Me About It: I am a 24-year-old male and I have never been physically attracted to anyone, either male or female

Wed Nov 21 2018 - 06:00
My teenage son was drinking and I’m angry at his best friend’s family for allowing it

My teenage son was drinking and I’m angry at his best friend’s family for allowing it

He won’t tell me how he got the alcohol and I feel his friend’s family has crossed a line

Wed Nov 14 2018 - 06:00
‘My girlfriend constantly checks where I am going and who I am with’

‘My girlfriend constantly checks where I am going and who I am with’

Tell Me About It: ‘She even seems to get anxious when I go home to visit my parents’

Wed Nov 07 2018 - 08:47
‘I have a wonderful daughter, who is gay, and a homophobic mother’

‘I have a wonderful daughter, who is gay, and a homophobic mother’

Tell Me About It: ‘She has told my children on numerous occasions gay people will burn in hell’

Wed Oct 31 2018 - 06:01
‘I didn’t get a promotion and I don’t like my young boss’ style’

‘I didn’t get a promotion and I don’t like my young boss’ style’

Tell me about it: I was devastated when I heard that I was unsuccessful

Wed Oct 24 2018 - 08:40
Our son says his hair loss has ruined his life

Our son says his hair loss has ruined his life

Now 33, he hasn’t worked for three years and is suffering from severe depression

Wed Oct 17 2018 - 06:01
‘My girlfriend self-harms. I don’t know if I want to bring her to live abroad’

‘My girlfriend self-harms. I don’t know if I want to bring her to live abroad’

Tell me about it: I love her but I don’t know if I can deal with such complications

Wed Oct 10 2018 - 06:01
My parents think my fiancé is a work-shy layabout

My parents think my fiancé is a work-shy layabout

I do pay most of the bills and would like him to get a steady job but I’m distraught by my parents’ attitude

Wed Oct 03 2018 - 06:01
‘I am 21 and have never had a sexual experience, not even a kiss’

‘I am 21 and have never had a sexual experience, not even a kiss’

Tell Me About It: ‘When I put a picture on social media nobody makes nice comments’

Wed Sept 26 2018 - 06:01
‘As far as my mother was concerned, I was never good enough’

‘As far as my mother was concerned, I was never good enough’

Tell Me About It: ‘Since her death, I’ve revisited incidents and feelings I had as a child’

Wed Sept 19 2018 - 06:01
‘Do I have a particularly cold and callous family?’

‘Do I have a particularly cold and callous family?’

Tell Me About It: ‘Life in a family with a disability is a never-ending struggle for support’

Wed Sept 12 2018 - 06:01
My daughter is refusing to visit her biological dad in Australia

My daughter is refusing to visit her biological dad in Australia

Even though she cannot articulate it, I think she is jealous of his new baby boy

Wed Sept 05 2018 - 06:01
‘My son is convinced my Spanish lover is a fraudster’

‘My son is convinced my Spanish lover is a fraudster’

Tell Me About It: Plan to emigrate and open cafe in Spain with lover hinges on trust

Wed Aug 29 2018 - 06:01
‘I’m stealing from my employer and fear getting caught’

‘I’m stealing from my employer and fear getting caught’

My bosses gave me no sympathy when my alcoholic husband died, leaving me in a lot of debt

Wed Aug 22 2018 - 06:01
My mother will be deeply hurt if I offer my philandering father a home

My mother will be deeply hurt if I offer my philandering father a home

He was never really there for us as children and he regrets it now but my mother and siblings are still very angry

Wed Aug 15 2018 - 06:00
I fear my daughter will reject me if I separate from her father

I fear my daughter will reject me if I separate from her father

I find myself staying in a relationship that is impacting on my emotional health and I feel so desperate

Wed Aug 08 2018 - 06:01
‘I am caught in a vicious and unhealthy relationship cycle’

‘I am caught in a vicious and unhealthy relationship cycle’

Tell Me About It: Because of my partner’s behaviour I’m crabby, a roaring banshee

Wed Aug 01 2018 - 06:01
I have started to use unprescribed drugs to help me focus

I have started to use unprescribed drugs to help me focus

Tell Me About It: My girlfriend is furious and also worried that it may impact on my health

Wed Jul 25 2018 - 06:00
‘My mother has one set of rules for family, and one set for me’

‘My mother has one set of rules for family, and one set for me’

I hope to be able to move out in the distant future, but how do I survive until then?

Wed Jul 18 2018 - 06:00
I’m divorced 12 years and feel ridiculous chatting up women

I’m divorced 12 years and feel ridiculous chatting up women

Tell Me About It: I’m wary of internet dating and feel like a sad case chatting up women in pubs

Wed Jul 11 2018 - 06:01
‘I resent my husband for my mental and emotional load’

‘I resent my husband for my mental and emotional load’

Tell Me About It: I got very sick last year and had a breakdown. I dread it happening again

Wed Jul 04 2018 - 06:00
‘My father sells himself as a hero, but I’ve just found out about his affair’

‘My father sells himself as a hero, but I’ve just found out about his affair’

Tell me about it: He sells himself as the family breadwinner hero despite the fact he betrayed my mother

Wed Jun 27 2018 - 06:01
‘I’ve been in a sexless marriage for 30 years – I feel I will explode sometimes’

‘I’ve been in a sexless marriage for 30 years – I feel I will explode sometimes’

‘I have struggled very badly with this, watching my prime slip away and not being fulfilled’

Wed Jun 20 2018 - 06:01
My teenage daughter never met her father and now he's dying

My teenage daughter never met her father and now he's dying

I’ve kept it a secret all these years but now time is running out and my daughter is devastated about not knowing her biological father

Wed Jun 13 2018 - 06:01
‘My fiancé now says he is too young to settle down’

‘My fiancé now says he is too young to settle down’

Tell Me About It: Sleeping with someone else made him think twice about commitment

Wed Jun 06 2018 - 06:01
‘This is awkward ... My flatmate wants me to pay more rent’

‘This is awkward ... My flatmate wants me to pay more rent’

Tell me about it: Our unequal arrangement was agreed a year ago so why should I budge?

Wed May 30 2018 - 06:01
‘I left my wife for another woman and now my eldest children won’t talk to me’

‘I left my wife for another woman and now my eldest children won’t talk to me’

Tell Me About It: I try to stay in touch with them but I get stonewalled most of the time

Wed May 23 2018 - 06:01
‘I chased an older woman for a long time and we got married – but now she’s 70’

‘I chased an older woman for a long time and we got married – but now she’s 70’

Tell Me About It: I am no longer attracted to her physically and she is not interested in sex

Wed May 16 2018 - 06:01
I won’t have sex with my husband – he says no man would stay in those circumstances

I won’t have sex with my husband – he says no man would stay in those circumstances

Tell me about it: ‘Counselling is not going to help as nothing can make me want him’

Wed May 09 2018 - 06:01
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