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‘Since my illness, my marriage has ended, I’ve lost out on work, and my appearance has changed’

‘Since my illness, my marriage has ended, I’ve lost out on work, and my appearance has changed’

Tell Me About It: ‘I feel down and hopeless since surviving cancer. I fear I am not living’

Wed Mar 10 2021 - 06:01
‘My husband is unemployed. Where will he go if I leave him for my business partner?’

‘My husband is unemployed. Where will he go if I leave him for my business partner?’

Tell Me About It: ‘He’s not the man I married: he lacks ambition and takes money from me’

Wed Mar 03 2021 - 06:01
‘The type of pornography that my partner watches upsets me’

‘The type of pornography that my partner watches upsets me’

Tell Me About It: ‘The frequency at which he views porn while in work is also worrying’

Wed Feb 24 2021 - 06:01
‘I have realised during lockdown that I don’t like my wife’

‘I have realised during lockdown that I don’t like my wife’

I find her cynicism obnoxious, and we have little in common except our children

Wed Feb 17 2021 - 06:00
‘How am I going to meet someone who does not want to have sex?’

‘How am I going to meet someone who does not want to have sex?’

Tell Me About It: I’d like a relationship with a male or female, but I’d prefer it without sex

Wed Feb 10 2021 - 06:01
‘I can hear the next-door neighbours shouting vicious abuse at each other’

‘I can hear the next-door neighbours shouting vicious abuse at each other’

Tell Me About It: The level of aggression has risen to an almost unbearable level

Wed Feb 03 2021 - 06:01
‘I think my husband has a drug problem, but he says that’s nonsense’

‘I think my husband has a drug problem, but he says that’s nonsense’

His moods are unstable, his spending out of control, and he sleeps very little

Wed Jan 27 2021 - 06:01
‘My parents should have told me I have a different genetic mother’

‘My parents should have told me I have a different genetic mother’

Tell Me About It: I’m curious to meet the egg donor, and I wonder if I have siblings

Wed Jan 20 2021 - 06:01
‘I’m afraid my wife is in denial about our financial situation’

‘I’m afraid my wife is in denial about our financial situation’

Tell Me About It: ‘She’s digging us into a hole that we might not get out of’

Wed Jan 13 2021 - 06:01
My mother-in-law’s bad behaviour towards me has caused a family rift

My mother-in-law’s bad behaviour towards me has caused a family rift

Tell Me About It: My husband wants nothing to do with her unless she apologises

Wed Jan 06 2021 - 06:01
‘My son is increasingly opting out of life’

‘My son is increasingly opting out of life’

Tell Me About It: My family are undermining how I handle my son’s lack of direction

Wed Dec 30 2020 - 06:01
Is my wealthy boyfriend being taken advantage of by his long-time friends?

Is my wealthy boyfriend being taken advantage of by his long-time friends?

Tell Me About It: They often stay in the guest house of his lakefront home free of charge

Wed Dec 23 2020 - 06:00
‘My homophobic husband has banned my daughter’s girlfriend from our home’

‘My homophobic husband has banned my daughter’s girlfriend from our home’

Tell Me About It: There is emotional and psychological damage being inflicted

Wed Dec 16 2020 - 06:01
‘He can’t say no to another drink when he’s out with friends or family’

‘He can’t say no to another drink when he’s out with friends or family’

Tell Me About It: Is this pattern of drinking a worry for the future?

Wed Dec 09 2020 - 06:00
‘I’m a man in my 30s and I lack any strong, platonic friendships’

‘I’m a man in my 30s and I lack any strong, platonic friendships’

Tell Me About It: It hurts to feel ignored and avoided, and causes feelings of loneliness

Wed Dec 02 2020 - 06:01
My mother is a narcissist and has ostracised one of my siblings

My mother is a narcissist and has ostracised one of my siblings

We have tried family therapy but she feels we are ganging up on her. What can we do?

Wed Nov 25 2020 - 06:01
‘We’ve been married 38 years but I feel my wife left me many years ago’

‘We’ve been married 38 years but I feel my wife left me many years ago’

Tell Me About It: ‘Intimacy has gone and I am living the life of a bachelor in a marriage’

Wed Nov 18 2020 - 06:01
‘I am in medical school and am terrified of catching Covid-19’

‘I am in medical school and am terrified of catching Covid-19’

Tell me about it: I’m beginning to wonder if I will ever feel it is safe to practise medicine

Wed Nov 11 2020 - 06:02
‘My wife thinks my new healthy lifestyle is costing money and family time’

‘My wife thinks my new healthy lifestyle is costing money and family time’

Tell Me About It: She thinks I need counselling to adjust to life post cancer

Wed Nov 04 2020 - 06:01
‘My boss gives me information that is misleading . . . I am obviously being bullied’

‘My boss gives me information that is misleading . . . I am obviously being bullied’

Tell Me About It: My boss is actively preparing and favouring another successor

Wed Oct 28 2020 - 06:01
‘My sister preys on people’s weaknesses, and causes nothing but trouble’

‘My sister preys on people’s weaknesses, and causes nothing but trouble’

Tell Me About It: I am sickened by the injustice and recently stopped visiting

Wed Oct 21 2020 - 06:01
‘My wife told me 28 years ago she doesn’t want a sexual relationship’

‘My wife told me 28 years ago she doesn’t want a sexual relationship’

Tell Me About It: All I want is to hold her in my arms like it was in our early years

Wed Oct 14 2020 - 06:01
‘My husband built a den for himself while self-isolating, and now won’t leave it’

‘My husband built a den for himself while self-isolating, and now won’t leave it’

Tell Me About It: He spends most evenings out there and when I enter I feel unwelcome

Wed Oct 07 2020 - 06:01
Tell Me About It: ‘Why am I the one always left alone?’

Tell Me About It: ‘Why am I the one always left alone?’

I exaggerate things in my mind and often end up being hurt by others

Wed Sept 30 2020 - 06:05
How can I tell my husband it is over and I want a divorce?

How can I tell my husband it is over and I want a divorce?

I want it to be over but part of me wants to be friends for our daughter’s sake

Wed Sept 23 2020 - 06:01
‘I’m a 17-year-old boy with no female friends, how do I change that?’

‘I’m a 17-year-old boy with no female friends, how do I change that?’

Tell me about it: Single-sex school and small town has left boy with no girl friends

Wed Sept 16 2020 - 06:01
‘My aunt wants me to take my sister to live abroad with me’

‘My aunt wants me to take my sister to live abroad with me’

My father passed away and since then my sister's mother’s behaviour has been erratic

Wed Sept 09 2020 - 06:01
I have faced hostility from my community since helping refugees

I have faced hostility from my community since helping refugees

Tell Me About It: I’m fed up with the intolerance and considering moving to a different city

Wed Sept 02 2020 - 06:01
‘My partner likes us to dress as animals during sex. I don’t want to do it any more’

‘My partner likes us to dress as animals during sex. I don’t want to do it any more’

Tell Me About It: My dreams are invested in this man and I don’t want to jeopardise my future

Wed Aug 26 2020 - 06:01
‘My partner never once lifted a finger to help me with my brother’

‘My partner never once lifted a finger to help me with my brother’

Tell Me About It: I love my fiance but also have a commitment to my sibling, who has special needs

Wed Aug 19 2020 - 06:00
‘I’m afraid an intimate photo may be used to blackmail me or be sold to a porn site’

‘I’m afraid an intimate photo may be used to blackmail me or be sold to a porn site’

Tell Me About It: ‘I lost my virginity to a really nice guy who then took his phone out’

Wed Aug 12 2020 - 06:01
Dear Roe, dear Trish, dear John: Your thorniest sex, relationship and parenting problems

Dear Roe, dear Trish, dear John: Your thorniest sex, relationship and parenting problems

We asked you for your pandemic-related issues. Here, our experts tackle some of the trickiest

Sat Aug 08 2020 - 06:00
‘My mother is a controlling, manipulative, narcissistic person'

‘My mother is a controlling, manipulative, narcissistic person'

Tell Me About It: I have lived abroad for 10 years and she still tries to manipulate me

Wed Aug 05 2020 - 06:01
My 21-year-old daughter doesn’t seem to have any friends. Would therapy help?

My 21-year-old daughter doesn’t seem to have any friends. Would therapy help?

Tell Me About It: She is functioning and competent but appears to have no social life

Wed Jul 29 2020 - 06:48
I can’t stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend

I can’t stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend

Tell Me About It: My current boyfriend is very good to me but I don’t feel the same connection

Wed Jul 22 2020 - 06:01
‘I ended my relationship with the man I deeply love because of my children’

‘I ended my relationship with the man I deeply love because of my children’

Tell Me About It: When they are not with me I feel guilty, like I am living a different life

Wed Jul 15 2020 - 06:00
My mother showers her negativity and toxicity on me and has ruined my life

My mother showers her negativity and toxicity on me and has ruined my life

Tell Me About It: I am her scapegoat, while she has a favourite son who is her golden child

Wed Jul 08 2020 - 06:01
‘A younger colleague called me a pervert and I don’t know what to do’

‘A younger colleague called me a pervert and I don’t know what to do’

Tell Me About It: Your good name is being targeted and some action needs to be taken

Wed Jul 01 2020 - 06:01
How do I stop my brother-in-law treating my house as his own?

How do I stop my brother-in-law treating my house as his own?

Tell Me About It: ‘We inherited the family home but the brother was part of the deal’

Wed Jun 24 2020 - 06:00
Am I just a sleazy landlady using a struggling young artist for sex?

Am I just a sleazy landlady using a struggling young artist for sex?

Tell Me About It: I feel this could be a proper relationship, but my friends think I’m fooling myself

Wed Jun 17 2020 - 06:01
‘Dad left my mom for a much younger woman after 35 years of marriage’

‘Dad left my mom for a much younger woman after 35 years of marriage’

Tell Me About It: ‘Mom was jobless in a new city. He dumped looking after her on me’

Wed Jun 10 2020 - 06:00
How do I convince my wife that I’d be a great stay-at-home dad?

How do I convince my wife that I’d be a great stay-at-home dad?

Tell Me About It: Having this choice can bring up very strong underlying ideas and values

Wed Jun 03 2020 - 06:01
‘My husband now says our life could be better without children’

‘My husband now says our life could be better without children’

Tell Me About It: ‘My IVF clinic closed and now my husband thinks it’s all for the best’

Wed May 27 2020 - 06:00
‘I live alone, all my friends are married and the isolation is unbearable’

‘I live alone, all my friends are married and the isolation is unbearable’

Tell Me About It: Tackle what is important to you now, before a busy life hides it again

Wed May 20 2020 - 06:00
‘I’m trapped in a dull environment with my husband and it’s making me feel restless’

‘I’m trapped in a dull environment with my husband and it’s making me feel restless’

‘He relies on me to fill all the social aspects of his day’

Wed May 13 2020 - 06:00
‘If my wife discovered my affair, she might just have a nervous breakdown’

‘If my wife discovered my affair, she might just have a nervous breakdown’

Tell Me About It: You are being deceitful while being the dutiful father and husband

Wed May 06 2020 - 06:00
‘I think my anger is actually depression’

‘I think my anger is actually depression’

‘I can’t seem to rein it in. I’m angry at work, with my husband and even with my kids’

Wed Apr 29 2020 - 06:00
‘I cannot stop reliving all the bad memories from my school days’

‘I cannot stop reliving all the bad memories from my school days’

Tell Me About It: ‘The years of bullying I endured in school are affecting me in college’

Wed Apr 22 2020 - 06:01
‘My husband won’t let our child carry both our surnames on the birth cert’

‘My husband won’t let our child carry both our surnames on the birth cert’

My mother-in-law has swayed him to break our deal that the child have both our names

Wed Apr 15 2020 - 06:00
‘I am in a sexless marriage that also includes constant criticism’

‘I am in a sexless marriage that also includes constant criticism’

Tell Me About It: ‘My wife’s new boss is a younger guy who can do no wrong’

Wed Apr 08 2020 - 06:00
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