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‘After 45 years I have realised that my husband is a terrible bore’

‘After 45 years I have realised that my husband is a terrible bore’

Tell Me About It: There is no age we get to that is too old for development or change

Wed Dec 15 2021 - 06:00
‘After divorce, I’ve fallen in love. But something is holding me back’

‘After divorce, I’ve fallen in love. But something is holding me back’

‘Life would change if things progressed, yet I feel the need to hit the brakes’

Wed Dec 08 2021 - 06:01
‘My family treated me like a liar when I told them I was sexually abused’

‘My family treated me like a liar when I told them I was sexually abused’

Tell Me About It: The 12-year-old you needs to be believed so that healing can begin

Wed Dec 01 2021 - 06:01
‘I’ve met a man who lost his wife 10 months ago. He feels he is doing wrong’

‘I’ve met a man who lost his wife 10 months ago. He feels he is doing wrong’

Tell Me About It: ‘I lost my first love years 27 years ago, so I feel for him’

Wed Nov 24 2021 - 06:01
‘My husband and I are both in our 60s. Are we too old to separate?’

‘My husband and I are both in our 60s. Are we too old to separate?’

We have nothing in common but the financial situation is holding us back

Wed Nov 17 2021 - 06:01
‘He will never, ever say he loves me’

‘He will never, ever say he loves me’

Tell Me About It: ‘He says it is not in his vocabulary. But I have heard him tell his kids he loves them’

Wed Nov 10 2021 - 06:01
‘I suspect my husband, and father of our new baby, is using drugs’

‘I suspect my husband, and father of our new baby, is using drugs’

He gets easily agitated over small things and finds excuses to leave the house

Wed Nov 03 2021 - 06:01
‘I am beginning to feel trapped and controlled by my partner’

‘I am beginning to feel trapped and controlled by my partner’

She orders my food, tells me what to wear and constantly checks my phone

Thu Oct 28 2021 - 06:01
‘I’ve started to remember things that happened with a boyfriend when I was 14’

‘I’ve started to remember things that happened with a boyfriend when I was 14’

Dear Trish: ‘I’ve just started college but I worry about death and I can’t be intimate’

Mon Oct 18 2021 - 06:01
‘Am I making a mistake planning a future with someone who wants children?’

‘Am I making a mistake planning a future with someone who wants children?’

Tell Me About It: ‘I always said I didn’t want a baby and that remains true now’

Tue Oct 12 2021 - 06:01
‘I’m a gay man in my 40s who is not single by choice’

‘I’m a gay man in my 40s who is not single by choice’

Tell me about it: His relationship ended and he wants marriage and a family

Wed Oct 06 2021 - 06:00
‘A man assaulted me last year and is still making life difficult for me in college’

‘A man assaulted me last year and is still making life difficult for me in college’

Tell Me About It: He is involved in club affairs, and it is making me not want to participate

Wed Sept 29 2021 - 06:01
‘My partner wants to manage the building of our new home, but he is dreadful at DIY’

‘My partner wants to manage the building of our new home, but he is dreadful at DIY’

Tell Me About It: ‘I am terrified we will waste money on what could be a vanity project’

Wed Sept 22 2021 - 06:01
‘My ex-husband and I rekindled our relationship, but is it just another honeymoon?’

‘My ex-husband and I rekindled our relationship, but is it just another honeymoon?’

Tell Me About It: ‘Things are different. We love each other and want to start a family’

Wed Sept 15 2021 - 06:01
‘I was cruelly rejected romantically two years ago, and I still cry about it every day’

‘I was cruelly rejected romantically two years ago, and I still cry about it every day’

Tell Me About It: The heartache that comes with romantic rejection can last a while

Tue Sept 07 2021 - 06:01
‘I am not getting the vaccine and everyone is giving me a hard time’

‘I am not getting the vaccine and everyone is giving me a hard time’

Family and friends don’t understand and rules around vaccination lead to feelings of alienation

Tue Aug 31 2021 - 06:01
‘I quit finance for a simpler life in the sun. But with no friends, should I go home?’

‘I quit finance for a simpler life in the sun. But with no friends, should I go home?’

Tell Me About It: ‘My Mediterranean life sounds idyllic, but I have seen no family’

Tue Aug 24 2021 - 06:01
‘Should I call Tusla about our new neighbour? She seems to be verbally abusing her son’

‘Should I call Tusla about our new neighbour? She seems to be verbally abusing her son’

Tell Me About It: Look out for the child doing normal things but report if you’re worried

Wed Aug 18 2021 - 06:01
‘My husband will not live with my ageing, homophobic father’

‘My husband will not live with my ageing, homophobic father’

Dear Trish: My parents are almost literally funding our quite ostentatious lifestyle

Wed Aug 11 2021 - 06:01
‘My divorced brother is ‘living his best life’, and there are now local rumours about his behaviour’

‘My divorced brother is ‘living his best life’, and there are now local rumours about his behaviour’

Tell Me About It: ‘I’m worried my brother’s behaviour will impact his health and his life’

Wed Aug 04 2021 - 06:01
‘Was breaking up with my long-term boyfriend a mistake?’

‘Was breaking up with my long-term boyfriend a mistake?’

Tell Me About It: My decision to break up our relationship has caused me and him immeasurable losses

Wed Jul 28 2021 - 06:01
‘My husband’s family excludes us from events because we don’t have kids’

‘My husband’s family excludes us from events because we don’t have kids’

Tell me about it: He hates confrontation and doesn’t want me to say anything

Wed Jul 21 2021 - 06:01
‘My brother hurt me with his shocking views. How can I continue our relationship?’

‘My brother hurt me with his shocking views. How can I continue our relationship?’

Tell me about it: We all experience shame and know its damaging effects on us

Wed Jul 14 2021 - 06:01
‘My husband and I haven’t had sex in 30 years and he resents me for this’

‘My husband and I haven’t had sex in 30 years and he resents me for this’

Tell me about it: He won’t come out and talk about it but I know he is bitter towards me

Tue Jul 06 2021 - 06:01
‘My son won’t come on holiday with us unless his girlfriend can join us’

‘My son won’t come on holiday with us unless his girlfriend can join us’

Tell me about it: I’m worried that our much-needed family holiday is about to be ruined

Sun Jun 27 2021 - 06:01
‘My mother is toxic and tries to control all aspects of my life’

‘My mother is toxic and tries to control all aspects of my life’

Tell Me About It: ‘She’s aggressive, abusive and can fly into rages that last hours’

Wed Jun 23 2021 - 06:01
‘I have a glass of wine at lunch and my Mam doesn’t approve’

‘I have a glass of wine at lunch and my Mam doesn’t approve’

Tell Me About It: ‘I moved back in with my folks who think I have dependency issues’

Wed Jun 16 2021 - 06:01
‘My elderly, diabetic, sexually lacking fiance wants a quick wedding. What should I do?’

‘My elderly, diabetic, sexually lacking fiance wants a quick wedding. What should I do?’

Tell Me About It: ‘I wonder why he wants to meet my mother before marriage’

Thu Jun 10 2021 - 06:01
‘I have lost all my friends because of my mental illness’

‘I have lost all my friends because of my mental illness’

Should I try to reconnect with old friends, or just try and find new people?

Wed Jun 02 2021 - 06:01
‘I am getting an insight into toxic laddish behaviour – and it’s making me sick’

‘I am getting an insight into toxic laddish behaviour – and it’s making me sick’

Tell Me About It: ‘My ex is dating a friend of a friend who openly talks about their sex life’

Wed May 26 2021 - 06:01
‘After 35 years in an unhappy marriage, debt is all that’s keeping us together’

‘After 35 years in an unhappy marriage, debt is all that’s keeping us together’

‘I don’t ever remember a time when we were truly happy. It’s the hostility I find difficult’

Wed May 19 2021 - 06:01
‘I’ve turned into a violent person since my man cheated on me’

‘I’ve turned into a violent person since my man cheated on me’

Tell Me About It: ‘I feel he is planning to cheat on me again and my feelings are very hurt’

Wed May 12 2021 - 06:01
‘I’m a health worker who has switched to a junior office post to avoid exposure to diseases’

‘I’m a health worker who has switched to a junior office post to avoid exposure to diseases’

Tell Me About It: ‘My husband is angry with me, as he believes I have not thought this through’

Wed May 05 2021 - 06:01
‘My brother has moved into the family home and won’t buy out my share’

‘My brother has moved into the family home and won’t buy out my share’

Tell Me About It: He has a free house when I have to struggle to keep a roof over my head

Wed Apr 28 2021 - 06:01
I fantasise all the time – and almost committed fraud as a result. How can I stop myself?

I fantasise all the time – and almost committed fraud as a result. How can I stop myself?

Dear Trish: ‘I would describe myself as the embodiment of Walter Mitty and Walter White’

Wed Apr 21 2021 - 06:01
‘Our mother is volatile and is causing rifts in our family’

‘Our mother is volatile and is causing rifts in our family’

Tell Me About It: ‘It is obvious that she is suffering deeply. What can we do?'

Wed Apr 14 2021 - 06:00
‘I want to move home, but it could be dangerous for us as a gay couple to live there’

‘I want to move home, but it could be dangerous for us as a gay couple to live there’

Tell Me About It: ‘I have a job opportunity I’d like to accept, but it would mean hiding who I am’

Wed Apr 07 2021 - 06:01
‘Will my ex-husband ever regret leaving me and my two kids for his younger co-worker?’

‘Will my ex-husband ever regret leaving me and my two kids for his younger co-worker?’

Tell me about it: This was something I had never seen coming. I thought we were happy

Wed Mar 31 2021 - 06:01
‘I lost my job because I was accused of being a bully’

‘I lost my job because I was accused of being a bully’

Tell Me About It: ‘I’m afraid to look for a new job. I fear that I’m a bad person’

Wed Mar 24 2021 - 06:01
‘How do we disinvite my future husband’s family from our wedding?’

‘How do we disinvite my future husband’s family from our wedding?’

Tell Me About It: I can’t have them at our wedding, but the ramifications will be permanent

Wed Mar 17 2021 - 06:01
‘Since my illness, my marriage has ended, I’ve lost out on work, and my appearance has changed’

‘Since my illness, my marriage has ended, I’ve lost out on work, and my appearance has changed’

Tell Me About It: ‘I feel down and hopeless since surviving cancer. I fear I am not living’

Wed Mar 10 2021 - 06:01
‘My husband is unemployed. Where will he go if I leave him for my business partner?’

‘My husband is unemployed. Where will he go if I leave him for my business partner?’

Tell Me About It: ‘He’s not the man I married: he lacks ambition and takes money from me’

Wed Mar 03 2021 - 06:01
‘The type of pornography that my partner watches upsets me’

‘The type of pornography that my partner watches upsets me’

Tell Me About It: ‘The frequency at which he views porn while in work is also worrying’

Wed Feb 24 2021 - 06:01
‘I have realised during lockdown that I don’t like my wife’

‘I have realised during lockdown that I don’t like my wife’

I find her cynicism obnoxious, and we have little in common except our children

Wed Feb 17 2021 - 06:00
‘How am I going to meet someone who does not want to have sex?’

‘How am I going to meet someone who does not want to have sex?’

Tell Me About It: I’d like a relationship with a male or female, but I’d prefer it without sex

Wed Feb 10 2021 - 06:01
‘I can hear the next-door neighbours shouting vicious abuse at each other’

‘I can hear the next-door neighbours shouting vicious abuse at each other’

Tell Me About It: The level of aggression has risen to an almost unbearable level

Wed Feb 03 2021 - 06:01
‘I think my husband has a drug problem, but he says that’s nonsense’

‘I think my husband has a drug problem, but he says that’s nonsense’

His moods are unstable, his spending out of control, and he sleeps very little

Wed Jan 27 2021 - 06:01
‘My parents should have told me I have a different genetic mother’

‘My parents should have told me I have a different genetic mother’

Tell Me About It: I’m curious to meet the egg donor, and I wonder if I have siblings

Wed Jan 20 2021 - 06:01
‘I’m afraid my wife is in denial about our financial situation’

‘I’m afraid my wife is in denial about our financial situation’

Tell Me About It: ‘She’s digging us into a hole that we might not get out of’

Wed Jan 13 2021 - 06:01
My mother-in-law’s bad behaviour towards me has caused a family rift

My mother-in-law’s bad behaviour towards me has caused a family rift

Tell Me About It: My husband wants nothing to do with her unless she apologises

Wed Jan 06 2021 - 06:01
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