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I’m gay and tired of closeted married men approaching me for affairs

I’m gay and tired of closeted married men approaching me for affairs

Ask Roe: Why do men play from the closet? Even among themselves it’s very unfair

Sun Sept 03 2023 - 05:00
‘I’ve just been ghosted by the guy I’ve been dating for months. Why do people think this is okay?’

‘I’ve just been ghosted by the guy I’ve been dating for months. Why do people think this is okay?’

Ask Roe: ‘How can I even consider dating again in the future when it just turns to heartbreak like this?’

Sun Aug 27 2023 - 05:00
Covid ruined my life plans and now I feel completely disconnected from my husband

Covid ruined my life plans and now I feel completely disconnected from my husband

Ask Roe: I used to be obsessed with how handsome he was and now I feel nothing. How can I reconnect?

Sun Aug 20 2023 - 05:00
My boyfriend betrayed me. Should we break up?

My boyfriend betrayed me. Should we break up?

Ask Roe: Establish some very clear boundaries in order to avoid any Ross and Rachel shenanigans

Sun Aug 13 2023 - 05:00
‘My future mother-in-law is slut-shaming me’

‘My future mother-in-law is slut-shaming me’

Ask Roe: You, and your partner especially, must call out her bad behaviour and let her know you will not tolerate it

Sun Aug 06 2023 - 05:00
My loving partner turned out to be married the whole time – and it’s happened before

My loving partner turned out to be married the whole time – and it’s happened before

Ask Roe: This has happened to me on three former occasions, and again, I had no idea. Am I the problem?

Sun Jul 30 2023 - 05:00
‘I love my boyfriend with all my heart but I often think about cheating’

‘I love my boyfriend with all my heart but I often think about cheating’

Ask Roe: ‘I am a serial cheater. I have almost always cheated on all my partners’

Sun Jul 23 2023 - 05:00
Sex therapy: ‘Porn was a big problem for people during Covid’

Sex therapy: ‘Porn was a big problem for people during Covid’

From sexual disconnection between couples to trauma, premature ejaculation or porn use – sex therapists can help

Sat Jul 22 2023 - 06:00
I’ve been faking my orgasms for years — how do I tell my husband?

I’ve been faking my orgasms for years — how do I tell my husband?

Ask Roe: I enjoy sex with him, but when we first started sleeping together I faked it and never stopped

Sun Jul 16 2023 - 05:00
Why do I keep attracting toxic men?

Why do I keep attracting toxic men?

Ask Roe: I am going to flip the question you asked me - ‘Why do I keep attracting all these toxic men?’ – and ask a different one: ‘Why are you attracted to toxic men?’

Sun Jul 09 2023 - 06:00
I first met my boyfriend when he was in a relationship. Now I’m worried he’s cheating on me

I first met my boyfriend when he was in a relationship. Now I’m worried he’s cheating on me

Ask Roe: He tells me I’m overreacting, but I know his history and I don’t want to end up like his ex

Sun Jul 02 2023 - 06:00
I keep going back to a man who is bad for me – how do I cut him off?

I keep going back to a man who is bad for me – how do I cut him off?

Ask Roe: He’d only call me once every two or three months, meet and have sex - I want him so bad but I know we’ll never date

Sun Jun 25 2023 - 05:00
My ex is ‘the one that got away’ and I can’t stop obsessing

My ex is ‘the one that got away’ and I can’t stop obsessing

Ask Roe: How can I stop myself grieving for a relationship that will probably never reignite?

Sun Jun 18 2023 - 05:00
My relationship and future are entirely dependent on my boyfriend’s business success

My relationship and future are entirely dependent on my boyfriend’s business success

Ask Roe: He says he wants financial stability before he moves in, but he’s not earning an income

Sun Jun 11 2023 - 05:00
My long-term boyfriend doesn’t want children but I’m realising I do – what now?

My long-term boyfriend doesn’t want children but I’m realising I do – what now?

Ask Roe: My feelings have changed and I cannot imagine a future without marriage and kids

Sun Jun 04 2023 - 05:00
My ex made me feel bad about my weight gain – do I need a ‘revenge body’ to date again?

My ex made me feel bad about my weight gain – do I need a ‘revenge body’ to date again?

Ask Roe: I want to get back out there but feel self-conscious. Is it better to wait until I lose weight?

Sun May 28 2023 - 05:00
My boyfriend keeps talking to women on apps but tells me it’s harmless

My boyfriend keeps talking to women on apps but tells me it’s harmless

Ask Roe: He keeps saying I’m over-reacting and that what he’s doing isn’t cheating

Sun May 21 2023 - 05:00
My partner and I want very different things in life. I think I’ve made a huge mistake

My partner and I want very different things in life. I think I’ve made a huge mistake

Ask Roe: I’ve just bought a house with my partner but my ex says she loves me and I can’t stop thinking about her

Sun May 14 2023 - 05:00
Is it okay to remain faithful to my dead wife? I can’t imagine a life with anyone else

Is it okay to remain faithful to my dead wife? I can’t imagine a life with anyone else

Ask Roe: I loved every part of that woman from the moment I met her. The issue is that I still do

Sun May 07 2023 - 05:00
I’m dating a guy who has called things off twice, but I keep going back for more

I’m dating a guy who has called things off twice, but I keep going back for more

Ask Roe: I’m dating a guy who has called things off twice, but I keep going back for more. Is this a hopeless case?

Sun Apr 30 2023 - 05:00
My marriage looks great from the outside – but all I want is to leave

My marriage looks great from the outside – but all I want is to leave

Ask Roe: You need to start trusting yourself, and giving yourself permission to do what you want and need to do with your one and only life

Sun Apr 23 2023 - 05:00
‘I’ve been with my girlfriend for a year but can’t stop thinking about my ex’

‘I’ve been with my girlfriend for a year but can’t stop thinking about my ex’

Ask Roe: I still find myself looking at her from the corner of my eye or trying to act cool when she’s around

Sun Apr 16 2023 - 05:00
My boyfriend wants much more sex than I do. Can we make it work?

My boyfriend wants much more sex than I do. Can we make it work?

Ask Roe: What you are experiencing is a very common pattern in relationships where one person has a higher libido than the other, and there are ways to navigate that

Sun Apr 09 2023 - 05:00
‘I love my husband but sex with my ex seemed more fulfilling, almost primal’

‘I love my husband but sex with my ex seemed more fulfilling, almost primal’

Ask Roe: ‘I don’t ever want to act on these thoughts but I feel like I am betraying my husband’

Sun Apr 02 2023 - 05:00
‘I’ve started experimenting with BDSM but feel sad afterwards – should I stop?’

‘I’ve started experimenting with BDSM but feel sad afterwards – should I stop?’

Ask Roe: BDSM is often deeply misunderstood in pop culture as being deviant, when actually it’s very common

Sun Mar 26 2023 - 05:00
‘My sister won’t leave her bad relationship - and I’m pretty sure she’s having an affair’

‘My sister won’t leave her bad relationship - and I’m pretty sure she’s having an affair’

Ask Roe: On top of that I am pretty sure she is having an affair with married man with three young children

Sun Mar 19 2023 - 05:00
‘My boyfriend says he doesn’t love me – should I leave or wait?’

‘My boyfriend says he doesn’t love me – should I leave or wait?’

Ask Roe: This is a stealthy form of self-sabotage – telling ourselves we are committed to love but only committing to people who will never force us to experience being loved fully

Sun Mar 12 2023 - 05:00
My best friend is in love with me and I don’t know what to do

My best friend is in love with me and I don’t know what to do

Ask Roe: I don’t want to lose our friendship, but I don’t know if it can continue if he has such strong feelings

Sun Mar 05 2023 - 05:00
My boyfriend gets angry when I don’t have sex with him

My boyfriend gets angry when I don’t have sex with him

Ask Roe: We have it at least three times a week, but he has a very high sex drive meaning he wants it daily

Sun Feb 26 2023 - 05:00
I think my husband is attracted to a friend and I’m at breaking point

I think my husband is attracted to a friend and I’m at breaking point

Ask Roe: How can I confront him without appearing like a nagging wife?

Sun Feb 19 2023 - 05:00
I love my girlfriend’s weight gain but she doesn’t – how can I boost her confidence?

I love my girlfriend’s weight gain but she doesn’t – how can I boost her confidence?

Ask Roe: I find curvy women attractive, but her lack of confidence is affecting my desire for her

Sun Feb 12 2023 - 05:00
The romance reboot: How to refresh your relationship and sex life

The romance reboot: How to refresh your relationship and sex life

Whether you’re single or in a long-term relationship, Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to recalibrate

Sat Feb 11 2023 - 06:00
My fiance has a history of cheating – can I trust him?

My fiance has a history of cheating – can I trust him?

Ask Roe: He says he would never cheat on me because I’m ‘the one’ but I hate cheating and I don’t know what to think

Sun Feb 05 2023 - 05:00
How to create rituals that add meaning to our lives

How to create rituals that add meaning to our lives

Rituals are incredibly important to human beings, psychologically, emotionally and spiritually

Sat Feb 04 2023 - 05:00
‘I can’t stop obsessing about my boyfriend’s beautiful, glamorous ex’

‘I can’t stop obsessing about my boyfriend’s beautiful, glamorous ex’

Ask Roe: ‘She is model-beautiful with my dream body, and I’ve even started thinking about them in bed together’

Sun Jan 29 2023 - 05:00
How to have great sex during the menopause and beyond

How to have great sex during the menopause and beyond

It can affect your libido, but menopause doesn’t have to mark the end of a satisfying sex life

Sat Jan 28 2023 - 05:00
‘I’ve just been dumped for being too needy - why does this keep happening?’

‘I’ve just been dumped for being too needy - why does this keep happening?’

Ask Roe: I don’t know what’s wrong with me and why I keep embarrassing myself by falling for these guys

Sun Jan 22 2023 - 05:00
I’m falling for a man, but he’s still living with his ex-wife

I’m falling for a man, but he’s still living with his ex-wife

Ask Roe: He can’t tell me when he will be moving and I feel like I’m waiting for us to properly start our relationship

Sun Jan 15 2023 - 05:00
My ex has been waiting for me for two years – do I go back to him or let him go?

My ex has been waiting for me for two years – do I go back to him or let him go?

Ask Roe: I feel if I don’t give him another chance I’ll always wonder ‘what if’, but I don’t want to waste more time

Sun Jan 08 2023 - 05:00
A woman is making me miserable, and I need to cut her off

A woman is making me miserable, and I need to cut her off

Ask Roe: I’ve excused her behaviour as she had a bereavement, but I don’t think she realises how belittling and stressful she is being

Sun Jan 01 2023 - 05:00
‘My neighbours’ loud sex sessions go from operatic to horror-movie screaming’

‘My neighbours’ loud sex sessions go from operatic to horror-movie screaming’

Ask Roe: Our sex and relationships expert answers six of your questions in a Christmas quick-fire column

Mon Dec 26 2022 - 05:00
The guy I like is playing games and I never seem to win

The guy I like is playing games and I never seem to win

Ask Roe: This is one of the biggest problems with modern dating – you’re treating it as a competition

Sun Dec 18 2022 - 05:00
‘I’ve reconnected with an old friend and can’t help but feel a spark of attraction I haven’t felt towards men before’

‘I’ve reconnected with an old friend and can’t help but feel a spark of attraction I haven’t felt towards men before’

Ask Roe: I’m curious about exploring this aspect of my sexuality, but equally nervous

Sun Dec 11 2022 - 05:30
I had an affair with a younger colleague and now he’s pursuing another woman

I had an affair with a younger colleague and now he’s pursuing another woman

Ask Roe: I fell in love with him, but he made it clear he didn’t want to be a couple

Sun Dec 04 2022 - 05:00
‘The man I was in a situationship with is dating someone new and I can’t get over it’

‘The man I was in a situationship with is dating someone new and I can’t get over it’

Ask Roe: From social media, it looks like they are happy, but I’m in denial. How can I move on?

Sun Nov 27 2022 - 05:00
‘My husband of 30 years is secretly viewing sex shows and using sex chat lines’

‘My husband of 30 years is secretly viewing sex shows and using sex chat lines’

Ask Roe: ‘I have also discovered he has taken intimate photos of himself and deleted them’

Sun Nov 20 2022 - 05:00
My Covid hobby has become a successful new career – and my husband resents it

My Covid hobby has become a successful new career – and my husband resents it

Ask Roe: He’s making comments about my ‘attitude’ and we’ve stopped having sex. What’s happening?

Sun Nov 13 2022 - 05:00
‘I like a woman but don’t know whether to follow my head, or my gut’

‘I like a woman but don’t know whether to follow my head, or my gut’

Ask Roe: My gut feeling is that we won’t have a deep connection, but she has some lovely qualities

Sun Nov 06 2022 - 05:00
‘My ex was on dating apps while in a relationship with me – will this keep happening?’

‘My ex was on dating apps while in a relationship with me – will this keep happening?’

Ask Roe: Are we living in a world where people are constantly asking themselves ‘Could I be happier?’

Sun Oct 30 2022 - 05:00
‘Four years on from a tough break-up, I still think about my ex every day’

‘Four years on from a tough break-up, I still think about my ex every day’

Ask Roe: She has made her decision and you need to respect that and not contact her

Sun Oct 23 2022 - 05:00
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