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My long-term boyfriend doesn’t want children but I’m realising I do – what now?

My long-term boyfriend doesn’t want children but I’m realising I do – what now?

Ask Roe: My feelings have changed and I cannot imagine a future without marriage and kids

Sun Jun 04 2023 - 05:00
My ex made me feel bad about my weight gain – do I need a ‘revenge body’ to date again?

My ex made me feel bad about my weight gain – do I need a ‘revenge body’ to date again?

Ask Roe: I want to get back out there but feel self-conscious. Is it better to wait until I lose weight?

Sun May 28 2023 - 05:00
My boyfriend keeps talking to women on apps but tells me it’s harmless

My boyfriend keeps talking to women on apps but tells me it’s harmless

Ask Roe: He keeps saying I’m over-reacting and that what he’s doing isn’t cheating

Sun May 21 2023 - 05:00
My partner and I want very different things in life. I think I’ve made a huge mistake

My partner and I want very different things in life. I think I’ve made a huge mistake

Ask Roe: I’ve just bought a house with my partner but my ex says she loves me and I can’t stop thinking about her

Sun May 14 2023 - 05:00
Is it okay to remain faithful to my dead wife? I can’t imagine a life with anyone else

Is it okay to remain faithful to my dead wife? I can’t imagine a life with anyone else

Ask Roe: I loved every part of that woman from the moment I met her. The issue is that I still do

Sun May 07 2023 - 05:00
I’m dating a guy who has called things off twice, but I keep going back for more

I’m dating a guy who has called things off twice, but I keep going back for more

Ask Roe: I’m dating a guy who has called things off twice, but I keep going back for more. Is this a hopeless case?

Sun Apr 30 2023 - 05:00
My marriage looks great from the outside – but all I want is to leave

My marriage looks great from the outside – but all I want is to leave

Ask Roe: You need to start trusting yourself, and giving yourself permission to do what you want and need to do with your one and only life

Sun Apr 23 2023 - 05:00
‘I’ve been with my girlfriend for a year but can’t stop thinking about my ex’

‘I’ve been with my girlfriend for a year but can’t stop thinking about my ex’

Ask Roe: I still find myself looking at her from the corner of my eye or trying to act cool when she’s around

Sun Apr 16 2023 - 05:00
My boyfriend wants much more sex than I do. Can we make it work?

My boyfriend wants much more sex than I do. Can we make it work?

Ask Roe: What you are experiencing is a very common pattern in relationships where one person has a higher libido than the other, and there are ways to navigate that

Sun Apr 09 2023 - 05:00
‘I love my husband but sex with my ex seemed more fulfilling, almost primal’

‘I love my husband but sex with my ex seemed more fulfilling, almost primal’

Ask Roe: ‘I don’t ever want to act on these thoughts but I feel like I am betraying my husband’

Sun Apr 02 2023 - 05:00
‘I’ve started experimenting with BDSM but feel sad afterwards – should I stop?’

‘I’ve started experimenting with BDSM but feel sad afterwards – should I stop?’

Ask Roe: BDSM is often deeply misunderstood in pop culture as being deviant, when actually it’s very common

Sun Mar 26 2023 - 05:00
‘My sister won’t leave her bad relationship - and I’m pretty sure she’s having an affair’

‘My sister won’t leave her bad relationship - and I’m pretty sure she’s having an affair’

Ask Roe: On top of that I am pretty sure she is having an affair with married man with three young children

Sun Mar 19 2023 - 05:00
‘My boyfriend says he doesn’t love me – should I leave or wait?’

‘My boyfriend says he doesn’t love me – should I leave or wait?’

Ask Roe: This is a stealthy form of self-sabotage – telling ourselves we are committed to love but only committing to people who will never force us to experience being loved fully

Sun Mar 12 2023 - 05:00
My best friend is in love with me and I don’t know what to do

My best friend is in love with me and I don’t know what to do

Ask Roe: I don’t want to lose our friendship, but I don’t know if it can continue if he has such strong feelings

Sun Mar 05 2023 - 05:00
My boyfriend gets angry when I don’t have sex with him

My boyfriend gets angry when I don’t have sex with him

Ask Roe: We have it at least three times a week, but he has a very high sex drive meaning he wants it daily

Sun Feb 26 2023 - 05:00
I think my husband is attracted to a friend and I’m at breaking point

I think my husband is attracted to a friend and I’m at breaking point

Ask Roe: How can I confront him without appearing like a nagging wife?

Sun Feb 19 2023 - 05:00
I love my girlfriend’s weight gain but she doesn’t – how can I boost her confidence?

I love my girlfriend’s weight gain but she doesn’t – how can I boost her confidence?

Ask Roe: I find curvy women attractive, but her lack of confidence is affecting my desire for her

Sun Feb 12 2023 - 05:00
The romance reboot: How to refresh your relationship and sex life

The romance reboot: How to refresh your relationship and sex life

Whether you’re single or in a long-term relationship, Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to recalibrate

Sat Feb 11 2023 - 06:00
My fiance has a history of cheating – can I trust him?

My fiance has a history of cheating – can I trust him?

Ask Roe: He says he would never cheat on me because I’m ‘the one’ but I hate cheating and I don’t know what to think

Sun Feb 05 2023 - 05:00
How to create rituals that add meaning to our lives

How to create rituals that add meaning to our lives

Rituals are incredibly important to human beings, psychologically, emotionally and spiritually

Sat Feb 04 2023 - 05:00
‘I can’t stop obsessing about my boyfriend’s beautiful, glamorous ex’

‘I can’t stop obsessing about my boyfriend’s beautiful, glamorous ex’

Ask Roe: ‘She is model-beautiful with my dream body, and I’ve even started thinking about them in bed together’

Sun Jan 29 2023 - 05:00
How to have great sex during the menopause and beyond

How to have great sex during the menopause and beyond

It can affect your libido, but menopause doesn’t have to mark the end of a satisfying sex life

Sat Jan 28 2023 - 05:00
‘I’ve just been dumped for being too needy - why does this keep happening?’

‘I’ve just been dumped for being too needy - why does this keep happening?’

Ask Roe: I don’t know what’s wrong with me and why I keep embarrassing myself by falling for these guys

Sun Jan 22 2023 - 05:00
I’m falling for a man, but he’s still living with his ex-wife

I’m falling for a man, but he’s still living with his ex-wife

Ask Roe: He can’t tell me when he will be moving and I feel like I’m waiting for us to properly start our relationship

Sun Jan 15 2023 - 05:00
My ex has been waiting for me for two years – do I go back to him or let him go?

My ex has been waiting for me for two years – do I go back to him or let him go?

Ask Roe: I feel if I don’t give him another chance I’ll always wonder ‘what if’, but I don’t want to waste more time

Sun Jan 08 2023 - 05:00
A woman is making me miserable, and I need to cut her off

A woman is making me miserable, and I need to cut her off

Ask Roe: I’ve excused her behaviour as she had a bereavement, but I don’t think she realises how belittling and stressful she is being

Sun Jan 01 2023 - 05:00
‘My neighbours’ loud sex sessions go from operatic to horror-movie screaming’

‘My neighbours’ loud sex sessions go from operatic to horror-movie screaming’

Ask Roe: Our sex and relationships expert answers six of your questions in a Christmas quick-fire column

Mon Dec 26 2022 - 05:00
The guy I like is playing games and I never seem to win

The guy I like is playing games and I never seem to win

Ask Roe: This is one of the biggest problems with modern dating – you’re treating it as a competition

Sun Dec 18 2022 - 05:00
‘I’ve reconnected with an old friend and can’t help but feel a spark of attraction I haven’t felt towards men before’

‘I’ve reconnected with an old friend and can’t help but feel a spark of attraction I haven’t felt towards men before’

Ask Roe: I’m curious about exploring this aspect of my sexuality, but equally nervous

Sun Dec 11 2022 - 05:30
I had an affair with a younger colleague and now he’s pursuing another woman

I had an affair with a younger colleague and now he’s pursuing another woman

Ask Roe: I fell in love with him, but he made it clear he didn’t want to be a couple

Sun Dec 04 2022 - 05:00
‘The man I was in a situationship with is dating someone new and I can’t get over it’

‘The man I was in a situationship with is dating someone new and I can’t get over it’

Ask Roe: From social media, it looks like they are happy, but I’m in denial. How can I move on?

Sun Nov 27 2022 - 05:00
‘My husband of 30 years is secretly viewing sex shows and using sex chat lines’

‘My husband of 30 years is secretly viewing sex shows and using sex chat lines’

Ask Roe: ‘I have also discovered he has taken intimate photos of himself and deleted them’

Sun Nov 20 2022 - 05:00
My Covid hobby has become a successful new career – and my husband resents it

My Covid hobby has become a successful new career – and my husband resents it

Ask Roe: He’s making comments about my ‘attitude’ and we’ve stopped having sex. What’s happening?

Sun Nov 13 2022 - 05:00
‘I like a woman but don’t know whether to follow my head, or my gut’

‘I like a woman but don’t know whether to follow my head, or my gut’

Ask Roe: My gut feeling is that we won’t have a deep connection, but she has some lovely qualities

Sun Nov 06 2022 - 05:00
‘My ex was on dating apps while in a relationship with me – will this keep happening?’

‘My ex was on dating apps while in a relationship with me – will this keep happening?’

Ask Roe: Are we living in a world where people are constantly asking themselves ‘Could I be happier?’

Sun Oct 30 2022 - 05:00
‘Four years on from a tough break-up, I still think about my ex every day’

‘Four years on from a tough break-up, I still think about my ex every day’

Ask Roe: She has made her decision and you need to respect that and not contact her

Sun Oct 23 2022 - 05:00
My partner is loving, caring and committed to our future together — but he doesn’t want to get married. I do.

My partner is loving, caring and committed to our future together — but he doesn’t want to get married. I do.

Ask Roe: I don’t know how to talk about this without sounding like a stereotype of a woman or like I’m issuing an ultimatum

Sun Oct 16 2022 - 05:00
‘I have feelings for my friend but don’t want to tell him. I don’t want to be the reason his relationship fails’

‘I have feelings for my friend but don’t want to tell him. I don’t want to be the reason his relationship fails’

Ask Roe: You need to look at the difference between a person who makes you feel safe, and a person you’re using as a safety net

Sun Oct 09 2022 - 06:00
‘I’m tired of faking orgasms and having rows about our sex life’

‘I’m tired of faking orgasms and having rows about our sex life’

Ask Roe: You are doing too much work in the bedroom and outside it. This isn’t what a relationship of equals looks like

Sun Oct 02 2022 - 06:00
Twenty ways to make your relationship more lasting, loving and lustful

Twenty ways to make your relationship more lasting, loving and lustful

Don’t lose hope when things get difficult. There is a lot we can do to keep love alive

Sat Oct 01 2022 - 05:30
‘I’m too infatuated with my new girlfriend to use basic social skills’

‘I’m too infatuated with my new girlfriend to use basic social skills’

Ask Roe: ‘I have a history of negative mental health, which often results in me feeling extreme highs and lows’

Sun Sept 25 2022 - 05:00
‘My new girlfriend still sleeps in the same bed as her ex’

‘My new girlfriend still sleeps in the same bed as her ex’

Ask Roe: I thought her ex had moved out, but discovered they are still living together and text every day

Sun Sept 18 2022 - 05:00
I’m sleeping with a man who has a girlfriend. I feel guilty but can’t walk away

I’m sleeping with a man who has a girlfriend. I feel guilty but can’t walk away

Ask Roe: I’ve developed feelings for him, though he says he will never fall in love with me

Sun Sept 11 2022 - 05:00
I’ve been with my partner exclusively for 18 years, but he’s been in an open relationship

I’ve been with my partner exclusively for 18 years, but he’s been in an open relationship

Ask Roe: ‘I’m just an average guy: I can’t compete with the fresh material readily available on dating apps’

Sun Sept 04 2022 - 05:15
My partner and I disagree about whether to have children — do we need to break up immediately?

My partner and I disagree about whether to have children — do we need to break up immediately?

Ask Roe: We both want to be together in the long term, but fear that one of us will end up resenting the other

Sun Aug 28 2022 - 05:00
My husband wants to have sex for at least an hour every time - it’s putting me off

My husband wants to have sex for at least an hour every time - it’s putting me off

Ask Roe: Since we had our first baby we are barely having sex. I just don’t have the energy

Sun Aug 21 2022 - 05:00
‘I’m easy-going, intelligent and apparently good looking – so why am I single?’

‘I’m easy-going, intelligent and apparently good looking – so why am I single?’

Ask Roe: I look at my friends and I see the wonderful people they are with, and I think, ‘Why can’t I have that?’

Sun Aug 14 2022 - 05:00
‘It’s not even about sex – I miss the intimacy of sleeping next to my boyfriend now that we’re in separate rooms’

‘It’s not even about sex – I miss the intimacy of sleeping next to my boyfriend now that we’re in separate rooms’

Ask Roe: Sleep isn’t the only issue here. There has clearly been a breakdown in open and empathetic communication

Sun Aug 07 2022 - 05:00
‘How do I convince my on-again off-again boyfriend to commit?’

‘How do I convince my on-again off-again boyfriend to commit?’

Ask Roe: I love him but I’m exhausted by the drama and want to just enjoy our relationship

Sun Jul 31 2022 - 05:00
‘I’ve met a man I like a lot, but I am starting to worry I slept with him too soon’

‘I’ve met a man I like a lot, but I am starting to worry I slept with him too soon’

Ask Roe: We’re getting on well, but he isn’t texting me apart from to arrange to meet again

Sun Jul 24 2022 - 06:00
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